I don't think the other advicenators have understood what you're asking. Are you asking how to have sex with a girl who is dating your friend but being cheated on, without your parents knowing? Because that is pretty disgusting and you sound like a really awful friend to even think about having sex with your friend's girlfriend. We don't give advice on how to do terrible things on this website.

Hello! Sorry about this enormous answer, but I really want to help you.
You're obviously a very intelligent girl. I can tell by the way you write that you're smart and creative. However, it also seems to me, and sorry if my observations are wrong, but it seems that you often try to hide your emotions. It is normal for everyone (EVERYONE, except maybe sociopaths) to feel emotions (especially when you have all those hormones rushing around your brain when you're 13). Some people obviously feel them stronger than others, but what it usually comes down to is how much we express these emotions, and you're the type of person, from what I can see, that attempts to hide the expression of your feelings. This can be harsh on yourself. Avoiding and suppressing your feelings can not only be harmful for you, but it can also make you unaware of your own feelings, and it can harm your intrapersonal intelligence. That is, your awareness of yourself. Knowing yourself can really help you tap your creativity, and might help you write the way you wish you could, help you speak the way you wish, because you'll feel more comfortable with yourself. I discovered this myself, after being extremely socially awkward and then accepting myself.
Anyway, I can completely understand why you would have feelings for someone, when they are the only person you've met who can make you feel such strong emotions, and, not just feel them, but express them.
So, I think its normal for you to like this guy. He sounds smart like you, and you admire and respect him. I can imagine you haven't met any guys like him, and I definitely doubt you know any 13 year-olds who are intelligent like you and this 22-year-old guy.
As you said, you're not trying to meet up with him, and, being the smart person you are, you understand it might not be healthy for a 13-year-old girl to have feelings for a 22-year-old guy.
To answer your first question, I don't think there is anything wrong with you. You've just found a guy who you think is really great, and you have a crush. However, him being on the internet, its hard for you to be reasonable about his age when you can't see, face-to-face, how much older he looks, talks, and acts. I'm 19. I liked a guy at my work who was 24. We went on a couple of dates and I realised, even though I am a young adult, and so is he, that there is this obvious age gap. I am mature for my age, but watching the way he behaved, and hearing him talk, I just thought "Wow, I've realised how much older he really is." But chatting on Facebook, and small talk at work, couldn't show me that. What I'm trying to say is, you can't see how much age impacts this guy's personality because you've never seen him. I think if you realise that this guy is probably a lot different in person, and a lot different to YOU in person, it will be easier to overcome your feelings for him.
What you should do? I think you've already handled this right so far. You've told the guy how old you are, and you've been honest about your feelings for him. From what I can tell from your story, he hasn't replied to you? He is probably shocked that such an intelligent girl is only 13! All you can do now is hope he deals with the truth in a good way, and you guys can continue chatting. Honestly though, I don't see anything happening between the two of you (but I am sure you already know this). Also, if he starts asking to meet up with you, I would be worried as to why a 22-year-old young man would want to meet up with a 13-year-old girl.

Finally, you're not crazy, you're just a girl with a crush, and we all know that crazy feeling of liking a guy, despite how impossible any kind of romance would be. You are such a smart girl, and this will help you in life with school and your future education if you go to college. Being creative, enjoying reading and science and thinking intelligently like you do, are such good features for a person to have. One day you will find a guy the right age who will absolutely love you. Most guys aren't much intellectually from 13-18. Wait until college and you meet smart people like you. They do exist! It must be hard for you now to find people who understand you, but I'm sure it will get much better later on in life.

Good luck, and try to get in touch with your emotions more, it might help you sort out your feelings.

Did she become a bitch before or after you said something about her?
If it was before, then she has unfortunately changed and you need to move on and find a best friend that is actually a caring, kind best friend. It will obviously be hard but lots of people change as they get older, and we need to move on sometimes.
If it was AFTER you said something, she is probably mad at you and you can try fix your friendship by having a talk with her. Let her speak her mind honestly and don't get mad at her. You've hurt her and you need to apologize and listen to her. Also, tell her how she hurt you if you need to.

Hey! It sounds like you're in a tough stage in life. Most people feel like they have no where to go once they graduate, but it must be harder for you with fiends like that.
If someone can't make time for you, ignores you, or thinks they're better than you, they are not worth it. They might think so highly of themselves, but for someone to treat a friend like that, they're a loser in my eyes.
I know you guys have been friends for years, and it's sad to say goodbye, but people can change.
I had almost the same experience, and in the end I decided I didn't want to be treated like dirt, so I stopped trying to communicate with my old friends and moved on. Now I've got two best friends who are amazing, and who I'd never trade for my old group of friends. It hurt so much to have my old friends ignore me, and it hurt to move on, but I'm happy I did.
Maybe this is what you need to do. Evaluate your friendships with these guys; how important are they to you? How important are YOU to them? Friendships are not a one-way street, both people have to put effort into them. Do you think they are worth it, or can you do better?

I also have to ask, have you been putting effort into staying in touch? Have you spoken over Facebook, texted, called or anything? Was your friend aware that you wanted to catch up with him, did he realize he ignored you?

I can't tell if it is a lack of communication that is the problem, or your friends have unfortunately changed and drifted away.

Sorry if this advice isn't what you were looking for. I sincerely hope you can find friends who care about you, or your old friends start caring about you too.
Best of luck.

hello.
it seems u r in a tough situation, and i have never been in something like this myself, but i will give the best advice i can. =D

i think that you should talk to your friends about how you feel, tell them that you feel like they dont need you anymore. and that you didnt meen to offend your friend when you said how you felt on Xanga. ask her to forgive you. hopefully she will understand that you didnt mean to hurt her feelings ,im sure she will understand.:)

good luck and i hope you and your friends have fun and get along.

-natalie

Hi! My name is Natalie and I am from Australia. I have always enjoyed helping people, and that is why I love using this website so much, and why I am studying Psychology at University to become a Clinical Psychologist. Hopefully I can give you some helpful advice and I always love feedback! :)

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