Q: i have been told that i won't be able to get pregnant by the usual way because of PCOS and that i would have to do ivf if i wanted a child. i guess i reacted badly and stormed out of the doctor's office. :( since i am too embarrassed to go back to the doctor could you please help me understand the way ivf works and the whole process of getting pregnant that way? thank you!

Q: it was my baby sisters birthday and so i wanted to look older and more like my mom so i wore a little mascara to school but then my mom saw it when she picked me up and got really mad, and said that we would 'talk' about it adter the party and im really scared. i want to tell her why i did it but i feel like she is going to think its really stupid...so to get to the point...i dont know what to say, how to act, or what is going to happen. what do i do?

Q: First off i'm 23f and i'm engaged to my long time bf (25) we have lived together for two years and the other day we got a big surprise. we are now expecting. My bf and i are happy but i'm really worried about what my family will say. his family is really laid back and i'm psitive they will have no problem with it. i know this cause his mom bugs us about grand kids. lol
but my parents are a little...ummm well the opposite. i'm afraid that i'll get a lecture not the congratz. My bf and i don't make much money but we get by. My bf and i have already looked over fiannces and things and we will be fine but i don't think my paents will see it that way. i'm just really stressed about the whole situation (my bf keeps bugging me to calm down) please any advice would help. (ps my parents and his parents are from kinda differnt worlds...i think my parents resent that i'm okay with living in the area we do and work the jobs we do...sometimes i think my parents think they are better that my bfs parents cause mine have money) i hope all the extra info helps thank you

Q: 14/f

Hey everybody. FIRST OFF- I am not talking about now, I am talking about when I'm older!!

Various resources have scared me away from childbirth, and I was wondering- is it as difficult to adopt as I've heard? I plan on adopting a young child if I ever decide to adopt. I know that adopting an infant is a huge production, but what about a small child?

Also, which is more expensive (adoption or childbirth in a hospital)? Can anybody tell me approximately how much either would cost?

Also, are childbirth and pregnancy as horrible as I've come to learn they are?

Any answers are much appreciated, thank you!

Q: Okay so my boyfriend and I just had a baby 8 weeks ago. We started having sex the 3 week after. I bled the fourth week for 4 days then it stopped. We had sex without a condom idk how many times but he never came inside me. I know about precum but i want to know what are the chances that i am pregnant again? We're buying a test and taking it tomorrow but its killing me to not know at the moment. Someone please give me some idea of whether i should be worried or not :( i feel nauseous, dizzy, depressed, etc. And idk if its from pregnancy or postpartum or just stress from the entire situation. HELP!

Q: im only a few weeks pregnant, but i have been getting really sick. i have a urinary tract infection and i also have a cold. im going to go to the doctor soon but i have to wait until i have the money. i have had the uti for about a week. Im concerned for the baby since its so early in the pregnancy. If i wait any longer will this have a serious affect on it? and with me having a cold also, will this cause a problem. this is my first so im concerned.

Q: I know I will probably get a lot of rude replies, but.. I feel it is the best for my child. I am currently going through a divorce, and of course there is a child involved. The thing is, I never wanted to have her, but because of my religion I was unable to get an abortion. During the time I've raised her, I could never love her. I did try with all my being, but I just could not love her. I am also concerned for her because of her father. I feel the reason I can't care about her is because I hate her father. I felt it may be best if I gave up on her and allowed her to live with him and his family. Is me being unable to love her a valid reason to be able to terminate my parental rights?

Q: Ok so i had sex with my boyfriend and im scared that i might be pregnant and i can not tell by if i miss my period because i dont have mine. do to my birth controll. so im afraid that i might be and my parents wont give me any money so i dont have any way to buy a test... im also 18 and still in high school.. I DONT KNOW WHAT IM GOING TO DO IF I AM MY PARENTS WOULD LIKE KILL ME IF I AM PREGO..

Q: my ex had full custody of my 6 year old daughter,i heard stories of abuse and neglect so i called the 800 # for abuse and neglect the local cps went out said ;there were no findings' that was 2009,september 2010 they went out again because of new allegations,this time it was founded,my daughter was removed because mother and stepfather were abusing drugs neglecting my daughter,and the mother was abusing her mentally as well,this was all admitted in court by the mother,instead of me getting my child she was placed with step fathers family non blood,the mother told cps i wasnt in my childs life etc,i am applying for custody in 2 weeks,now she and stepfather get 'supervised visits' and the supervisors are the step fathers family,my daughters demeanor has changed drastically ,she rushes me off the phone non loving afraid of me so i called cps and told them mental abuse is still going on,they brush off everything i say,the law guardian has no clue about the case or my daughter,how can i get someone to advocate for my daughter?the county was told to have my daughter go to therapy i as the father set up the appointment,cps is being very relaxed but i fear now for my 6 year olds mental well being,no one is taking my claims serious no one is listening to me,and the biggest part is the mother over a 3 year period of time told my daughter that the new husband is 'daddy' i just need help to protect my daughter,when we go to court no one is prepared,or clueless,the child was removed from dutchess county n.y.,and placed in westchester county n.y.,so cps passed it along to westchester county as a 'courtesty' westchester just goes twice a month to make sure the child is ok phyisically'what rights as a father do i have? what petitions can i file in court?and since the child was removed they said it is called article 10 custody of ******,who has custody county or article 10 people?i just need help and need to get more stricter supervised visits and i need phone calls to be monitored,but am unsure on how to do so,case is in dutchess county n.y.and my daughters mom is telling cps worker that she does not want me in my daughters life and does not want me around her,so what makes a person believe that she the mother isnt feeding her head with more stuff.parental alienation is key it has and is happening,there has to be an intervention,thank u for any help/advice

Q: Let me first start by giving you a little back ground information. My ex wife became pregnant when she was 20 and I was 19. Even though it was earlier than we both expected to become parents, we were thrilled and so excited to start our family together. We got married shortly after she gave birth to our son Matt. Soon after that, we had another son, and then a daughter. From my perspective, everything was great. That's why I was so blindsided when my wife came to me 9 months after our daughter was born claiming she wasn't ready to settle down and be a mother with divorce papers in her hand. Almost overnight, I became a 23 year old single father with a 4 year old, 2 year old, and a 9 month old. After the divorce was final, I rarely heard from my ex wife. She had begun living a life that I didn't necessarily approve of filled with drugs and alcohol and, while I wanted to keep my children as far away from that as possible, she was their mother and I didn’t feel like I could entirely keep them away from her. The last straw, however, came when I let my daughter, Alyssa, (who was 6 at the time) stay with her when I took my sons on a hunting trip. I was supposed to pick her up at noon the Sunday we got back. I spent the entire afternoon calling my ex wife’s apartment with no answer. At 5 that afternoon, I finally just went over to her house where I found her front door wide open and her passed out on the couch from mixing a few too many drugs with alcohol. Her neighbor came over to the apartment and told me that my ex wife had taken Alyssa out one night and come home completely plastered. Thank god her neighbor had woken up and decided to take Alyssa back to her apartment. And this is just one example of many. After that, I told my ex wide that I didn’t want her to see our kids anymore which devastated her so much she entered rehab. She got clean and for the past ten years has seen the kids a few times despite my hesitance. My kids and I have been living a great life together away from my ex wife. A few years ago I began dating another woman whom I am now engaged too. She gets along great with my kids and is an amazing person who I know will be a good influence on my kids’ lives. My oldest son Matt is now in college, but Colton (my middle son) and Alyssa still live with me. Since I have become engaged, my ex wife has become crazy about spending time with the two of them. She wants them at her house every weekend and doesn’t want my fiancé to parent them at all. She is trying to tell my daughter all kinds of lies about why she left, and how I am a horrible person for trying to keep them from seeing her. She tells her that the entire thing was my fault and all kinds of horrible rumors about my fiancé, who went to high school with my ex wife. She has asked both of my kids to move in with her. Colton told her absolutely not, but Alyssa is confused about the whole situation and doesn’t know what she should do. I have full custody of them so essentially it is my choice about whether or not she can see them. I don’t want to take them away from my ex wife, but I don’t want to lose them myself. I am still worried that she will resort back to her old ways and put my kids in danger like she has their whole lives. Am I right to not let my daughter move in with her mom?

Q: Okay, so I had sex last night with my boyfriend, and we didn't use any kind of protection. I'm usually on the pill, but missed a couple at the beginning of the month so I decided to take a break from it and start taking it when the next package starts, so that I won't get too off track. My question is, could it be very likely that I would get pregnant? I'm supposed to start my period in two days, which means I had sex after my ovulation days. And if I am pregnant, would I still miss my next period? I feel like two days would be too soon to tell and I'd start my period anyway. But I am completely confused.

Q: My children, particularly the 10 and 11 year-old, do not seem to have any regard for rules. Simple requests, such as bringing down dirty clothes and linens, are ignored. Their only response when asked why they did not is only a shrug or "I don't know". We have noticed that this behavior is carrying over to school, as well. When asked if they have any homework, etc., they almost always say no, but we have been contacted by teachers that they are not turning in assignments. We have removed games, TV, ipods, computers, cell phone use and at one point removed our oldest from basketball, but they really do not seem to care. At least not to the point of any improvement. I don't know how to discipline someone who simply does not care. Need advice...

Q: My eight year old daughter and her friend (girl, same age)will often times play at my house directly after school. Frequently both kids will use our bathroom(s) soon after arriving to do a poo, since often times they hold it in during school. The problem is that neither girl flushes afterward. After talking to my daughter, they have a contest as to who does the biggest poo, who has been holding it the longest, who has to go the worst,etc. I am hoping this is just a phase that they are going through. I don't appreciate it when I go into the bathroom, lift up the lid, and see an unflushed BM and knowing it came from my daughter or her friend (although I am a little surprised at the size of the stools sometimes, and I guess I can see why they would be interested in comparing). Any suggestions? Is this just a phase?

Q: I'm a teenager, and I'm trying to convincemy parents
to get me a cell phone! They never let ne even look at one! Anyone know what I should do???

Q: Hannah is my bro's feiance. She is a bad situation at her house and when she turns 18 wants to move in with me. Im ok with her living with me but I will expect certain things from her like going to school and having a job. Do you think expections would be a bad thing and if not what should I expect out of her?

Q: My daughter is 13. She has been playing soccer since she was 5. We have a tournament this weekend and the last game of the day is at 5:30pm. It will be over at apprx. 7pm. The tournament is about 1 and a half hours away from our home. If she plays the game we won't be home until about 9pm. She has her first school/Valentines dance on Saturday which starts at 7pm until 10pm. She is very good at soccer, attendance is key and her position may be comprimised if she doesn't play. But, this is her first dance and she really wants to go. Her dad says play the game and forget the dance. I say forget the game and go to the dance. What do we do?

Q: I'm an 18 year old successful student at a top college...and I've found myself with the crazy urge to have a baby. This started in October. My boyfriend of 8 months and I ran out of condoms and had unprotected sex. It was the first time we had ever done it without one and I was terrified. A week later we broke up due to stress from living in different states. A couple weeks later I found out I was pregnant and I was scared to death, then a couple days later I had a miscarriage. Two months later we got back together and he now lives half an hour from my school. He knows I miscarried but we don't talk about it.
Since we've gotten back together we've had sex without a condom..a lot. Every so often it makes me nervous that I'll get pregnant again, even though he always pulls out, he pulled out the first time and I got pregnant on precum. But sometimes I'm completely unconcerned that I'll get pregnant and have a "if it happens, it happens" type of attitude about it.
I know he doesn't want kids now. His best friend is a new dad and he always talks about how stupid he was to get his girl knocked up but we're pretty much putting ourselves in the same situation.
I've always wanted children and I wanted my first by the time I was 24 so I've always wanted to be a younger mom but I never thought this young. Part of what makes me feel this way is seeing my boyfriend when he's around children. We're good friends with a 26 year old couple with two toddler girls and whenever my guy is around the kids he's so amazing with them.
I know his family would be supportive and knowing that isn't helping me get myself out of that. I know its hard to have kids, I've babysit triplet boys from the time they were born until they were 6.
I have the urge to have a baby, and I need to get out of it.

Q: I dont know where to start, so ill just start.
I am 18 weeks pregnant, 19 years old and have been with my now 20 year old boyfriend since we were 17. Found out about the pregnancy in October, we were living in an apartment with my bestfriend and her boyfriend. I started to get very bad morning sickness, constant vomit and fevers because of the dehydration so I decided it would be best to stop working for a few months. My boyfriend got layed off at the same time. Seeing the position we were in my wonderful mother took both of us in because he had noowhere to go. This was Dec. 1st. The agreement was 250 a month when we got jobs and to be clean and respectful. My boyfriend started his new job with in a couple of weeks. He is terrible with money, he blows through his 680 dollar checks in a matter of 5 days or less. Granted he buys me food or what ever i ask for, but then he holds it against me. (BUT during our apartment stay he lived off of me for two months, rent food fun everything i paid for) Also in the time he doesnt have money or we didnt have jobs he was usually talking me into getting a direct deposit advance (a loan from my bank that will with drawl 35 days later) Also, he smokes weed, and Im completley okay with it. we are laid back people and i believe that weed is completley fine, much more relaxed than drinking. but the problem is, all of his money goes to weed, and all of my advances went to weed. now the 35 days are catching up, i do have a job now but havent gotten paid yet. and my bf got his mom to loan him 80 dollars. 50 of which went to weed, idk where the other 30 went, but now im out of gas and cant get to work tonight (we share a car). This is a constant story, and he hasnt been attempting to save at all and he hasnt given my mother any money and im always picking up after him and his friends are always over when i get home from work. hes a sweet guy but i dk what im doing wrong, i cant get him to see the way he is is not okay. Next month i told him he is giving my mom money and me 600 every month until we move out so we arent out on our ass with a baby when we do (september)and im not taking "well can i jst pay this" for an answer bc thats what ive been hearing and he still has a 300 rent to own bill and a 300 E.R. bill and a 200 communit college bill(he never attended. he hasnt called to discuss finacial assistance or tell them he doesnt have the money either. theres more . Im going crazy bc he doesnt listen to me and always tells me my negative energy is bringing him down and always brushes me off. i have noone to talk to about me or how i feel and its starting to make me depressed. my friends just arent much for advice or conversation i dont feel comfortable whining to them bc they come to me for advice, bc i am always gonna tell them whats best for them, but in return i get the answers that will make me happy. i need more. i need advice. I also finally decided "okay, im gonna do this im gonna go to school" but then discussed with my mom the dilemma of him wanting to go to school and work and how i do not believe in daycare, we decided maybe i should wait and if we save the money I have planned, (like 6000 by sept) than i can stay home with baby, he can go to school and work full time and in 4 years hell have a career, baby will be in preschool, and i can start my school. (a vet tech program that takes 2 years) my mom and i decided that i would try school in august, but thinking all realisticly i dont want my child in daycare, i worked at one and it was not pretty. and i dont mind the stay at home mom idea. I just dont want him to think it gives him the right to control me bc i am not making any money. gosh everything is just frustrating, between him not having any money, me putting off at school, figuring out how i am going to raise a child when he sometimes treats me like i am just here for what ever purpose he thinks i am, and then the idea that we CAN do this. I have not given that up. i just am so lost with noone to talk to and i just dont know what to do and it breaks my heart because i love him, thats how i got myself here. Since we were 17 ive been the money maker, paying for everything, i took him in my home, i moved out with him under the stupid notion it would help him, and part of me wonders if he got me pregnant on purpose because i was so set on becoming my own person with my own place and my own life when we moved out. I have been in a serious relationship since i was 14, and he knows i was going to break up with him, it was obvious. Now here we are and i sit here and cry everymorning and i dont even know what i want anyone to tell me bc i dont know which is a problem and which is normal. or if im being overly dramatic. i just doint know. i just cant take it anymore and wish my baby was here so i had someone to love that has to love me and wont make me feel bad for feeling the way i do

Q: This is not really a question i read that your only 17 and have a child my name is stacey i am 18 and i also haue a son he is almost two . i just wanted to introduce myself it seems we have alot in common

Q: I am a 14 year old mother.
Please do not judge me, i am judged enough.
I am still in school and planning on finnishing.
My story is, my friends father raped me, obviously he did not know what the word protection ment, and knocked me up. He is in prison, my parents grief every day, and people stare like they think they are God and its judgment day. It is very hard, i couldnt give the baby up, i just didnt have it in me. I am 7months and huge. I am scared, i have watched tons of videos on wat is most likely going to happen to me when the twins arrive. Yes, i said twins. One boy and one girl. My mother has called adoption agencies and etc, but i have turned them all down, truly i want to keep my children, granted the father is an asswhole. When i feel them kicking to the sound of my voice it rips me apart to think i would give them up. I thought i'd talk to you since you were 15 when you were preg. So any advice for a 14year old soon to be mom?

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