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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!

"I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was"

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im doing a class project and have to find out how many people die a second. anybody know?

http://www46.wolframalpha.com/input/?i=How+many+people+die+in+a+second

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Me and my guy are both Gemini's.. Can this relationship workout so that we can get married in future.. ???
he was born on June7th 1986 and
me on June8th 1989

please help me out

In astronomy, same sign relationships are one of the best. The best for Gemini would be Taurus or Cancer. A bit worse than Gemini-Gemini would be Aquarius or Libra.

But quoting Han Solo, "I've seen a lot of strange stuff, but I've never seen anything to make me believe there's one all-powerful force controlling everything. There's no mystical energy field controls my destiny."

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i didnt know what topic to put this under but heree it goes.

i was wondering if anyone knew how to make a picture like all cool the way certain things are colored.

i saw this one girls picture and it was in black and white, but her eyes were blue and all pretty. that was the only thing colored.

so does anyone know how to do that?!!
THANKS SO SO MUCH

Get the GIMP (free):
http://gimp.org
Direct download:
http://preview.tinyurl.com/3b46zl

Then follow my video guide:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K6jgHrLkpuQ

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Why is it that life always takes a dump on the nice guys and gives all the great shit to the assholes who dont deserve it? Im fed up with it, Im nothing but nice to people and i love being the nice, sweet guy, but why is it so hard to be happy? All these jerks get everything, why? Do i have to be an asshole to get what i want? Nice guys never get the girl...

http://encyclopediadramatica.com/Friend_Zone (LSFW)

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Ok I'm super confused so maybe someone can explain this to me! Let's say a boy is 17 and in your state the law is a 17+ person can't date a minor then can he have a 15 year old girlfriend? Because I was reading that there are laws that when your like 17 and up you can't date minors but what about teens around the same age with only a couple years difference? Thanks so much and I will rate everyone who helps me! :D

There aren't any laws like that. You can date whoever you want.

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I am a 15 year old female. I spend my summers down the shore where i have a beach house with my cousin who is 17. Wat are best friends and go out everynight and hang out on the beach and meet guys who are 17. I always lied adn said i was 16 and a jounior instead of 15 and a sophmore. We made some friends but next summer we are going down and i just want to have a great time and go crazy but im worried about lying about my age but at the same time im scared to say my real age adn grade, becayse i dotn want tehm to think i am i child. So what should i do? Also, what about the guys who we plan on meeting who are 19 and 20 Then they may think im too you (i will only be 16 then) they may think im too young to hang out with them. Please, i want as much advice as possible from both guys and girls. Guys- what do you think of younger girls? All i really care about is having the time of my life.

I would continue lying about my age unless they press the issue. The age difference isn't too big, I doubt they care much.

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i need help flirting im like lost
im a girl btw ..aha
kk give me some things guy would like
and things that might have helped you in the past

"How to flirt" was the how-to of the day at wikihow:
http://www.wikihow.com/Flirt

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Hypothetical situation: So, I'm in love with a girl, and she is doing everything in her power to repeatadley break my heart. I feel completely...

What word am I looking for?

Broken, lost, discarded, destroyed, tortured, small, helpless, trapped, empty, cheerless, dejected, despondent.

Hopefully I've captured it, but you should understand that there isn't a single word for every emotion. I also hope you're just writing something and not actually in that situation; if you are, best of luck and take the columnist below me's advice.

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What do guys look for in a girl? Not only personality but also appearances? from how long their nails are all the way to the color of their hair. I want to know what is attractive to YOU in a girl!

I answered this here:
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=theymos&mode=qview&q=484336

You can't change your personality, so just be yourself. I don't care about nails. I prefer dark hair, but it doesn't matter much.

Next time you ask a question like this on Advicenators, link to a picture of a hot girl and ask what makes her hot; you'll get better answers.

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ok i was reading this magazine and in the magazine there were about 100 guys who described there perfect girl.

most said "caring, thoughtfull" but some of them described appearances. 1 guy said "preferebly long, brown hair" and the other said "curly, brunette hair" but none of them said blonde.

i have short blonde hair, and i was wondering if guys really do care about hair color or style.

thanks.

Some guys have a preference, but it's not a big deal. I prefer dark hair, but I've seen a lot of attractive blonde women; it doesn't matter that much.

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here are these to really great girls im trying to find out which one i should date, i cant choose!
i need help sooo bad

okayy #1 is Jessica

http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=5zm2kgl


#2 this is Haley

http://tinypic.com/view.php?pic=5xhrxuw

which one? i dont know, im having a SUPER hard time

ALSO PLEASE TELL ME WHO IS PRETTIER I CANT TELL THAT STUFF IDK WHY BUT IM HAVING A HARD TIME pleasee help

thanks!!

Jessica, but I'm not a fan of either, and it's hard to tell with these close-ups.

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[I am a highly spriritual person]
16/F
I had been in a relationship for two years. I really loved this guy. He was 18 and called Dan. For me though, the grass was always greener, and I kept leaving him for other people. It was awful. I always went back to him when I realised he was all I wanted, but then someone else came along.

We broke up about 2 months ago. For the last time we agreed. No more getting back together. It was long over due. I started seeing this guy, Matt. We went out a few times during mine and Dans break ups. We had previously been out a few times before me and Dan knew eachother.

Matt was going out with this girl, Liz, when me and Dan broke up. I told Matt that I liked him. I told him that I didnt want to break them up, I just wanted to let him know. He then broke up with Liz and invited me around his house. I went. I was really nervous and Matt told me we needed to talk about "us". I guess we really did but I avoided the issue and slept with him instead.

Now, everyone considers us "going out" even though he didnt ask me out. I would have said no, after Dan i realised I am not relationship material. Its not fair to mess people about.

Dan's friends never accepted me, and Matt's mates really get a long with me. It feels so good to be liked. I can just be myself.

But I dont love Matt. I love Dan. Last night Dan came around, and we made out. It started to lead on to sex but I didnt think getting caught up in the moment would do either of us any good. He still loves me.

I did a tarot card reading. But I got mixed messages. It told me that the basis of our relationship was, "A new phase or fresh start, having vision or faith in oneself. Enthusiam. PLayfulness. Trust. A sense of protection". But when it got to where are relationship is going, it said, "Conquest, defeat, destruction of others, Ememies seek your dishonour. Quarrels, Rivalry, no clear winner. Confused priorities, spitefullness".

Can anyone make sense of this for me? Should I be with him or not?

Cheers // Love xXx

Do another one and the cards will probably clarify themselves. I'd stick with the traditional Celtic cross, since it's less likely to contradict itself. Next time give us the actual cards you drew, and in what position they were in, so we can give our interpretation.

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okay so 3 weeks ago, i hooked up with this kid, and then that night [like, 3 hours after i made out with him] he began to get the symptons of mono, and then next thing i know, hes out of school for a while.
so here is my question: do i have a risk of getting mono because he got it that night?

Yes, you could have it. Its incubation time(the time from infection to symptoms) is very long, up to a month and a half. If you start getting flu-like symptoms, go to the doctor. It's not life-threatening or anything; surely nothing to be too worried about(It's nothing like AIDS, even very different in how you can be infected). I wouldn't go to the doctor's before you get symptoms.

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is it illegal in the state of massachusetts for an 18 year old girl who is dating a 16 year old boy to have sex? like wut is the age of consent type of thing?

note: tommys_baby and cwinser is wrong

That would be legal. Age of consent there is 16.

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18/f

Like seriously how the hell do they think!!! I dont understand them. They like you one day they hate u the next! like all i want is a nice guy who i can cuddle up to and tell everything and yes do other stuff ;).. but i jsut feel so lonely! My sister told me that guys just arent like girls. they arent so sensitive .. and i mean i dont think i could ever be with a girl because guys are just amazing to me.. but i just dont understand

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_differences#Psychology
Since no one is (truely) both a guy and a girl, you'll have trouble getting an answer to that ;) . Girls think emotionally. Guys think intellectually. That doesn't mean girls are less smart, just that they consider the impact on others before they do something. Maybe this image will help you:
http://media.geekarmy.com/geekarmy/geek_toys_003.jpg

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15/f
what qualties do guys look for in a girl like honestly?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?t=0&keyword=guys%20like%20girls&backlog=2
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=484336
As I say in the second link, guys usually don't go for personality. Everyone on advicenators likes to tell people that, but it's false. You don't hear a guy say "She's totally funny/smart/likable".

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ahh , 0k me and my b0yfriend have been g0ing 0ut f0r a m0nth . and its great bascilyyy ..

well we have an 0pen relationship , where we tell each 0ther everyy , well in the summer he REALLY liked my friend ashley [ like bef0re we started hanging ] she was like his first l0ve . well he really really liekd her and she screwed him 0ver s0 badley and he g0t raely hurt . tonight we was talkin and i was like wat did it feel like t0 be in l0ve and he said like she was the 0nly pers0n that mattered and all this 0ther shit . well i was like are y0u ever g0nna be able t0 like me like y0u did ashley , he said im really trying its just s0 hard t0 trust girls after her . s0 h0w d0 i get him t0 trust me with 0ut havin his gaurd up ?

U HAEV 2 GIEV HIM TIEM 2 GET OV3R IT!!!!11 LOL THERAS NOTHNG U CAN DO 2 HALP HIM JUST B SUPORTIEV AND DONT GAT MAD AT HIM FOR IT!!!!!!!!! WTF

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19 f
so im trying to see what most nice guys are attracted to in a girl. i know that it varys from guy to guy but i would just like to know. do they like it when girls show a lot of skin? i dont but sometimes i think i have to look more barbie like to grab there attention.

Haha, "Most guys go for personality." I'm a guy, and I can say that's a complete lie. Personality is a big plus, but looks are the first, second, and third impression. Every guys is different, but most guys like thin girls, curves, and no really bony areas(so not too thin). The word that most embodies a hot girl is "smooth". Guys love it when you show skin, but they like it especially in the upper body, the lower body doesn't matter much, and if you show too much skin it looks bad. Guys don't expect you to look perfect, and you shouldn't worry too much about it; you certainly don't have to look like Barbie. When a guy looks a picture and says "she's hot", his standards are much higher than what they are with a real person

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can i be with someone thats under age

You can do anything you want that's non-sexual with anyone.

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