So there's this guy and I have had a crush on him all of my life and now he has a girlfriend. Is it a bad idea to tell a guy how you feel even if he has a girlfriend that he really likes?
Thank you to everyone in advance!!!
He has a girlfriend. He isn't available to you.
If you've had a crush on him all of your life and wanted to take things further then you should have explored that while he was still single.
Leave him alone and move on.
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I don't honestly know what to do. This guy made me feel really special, and it wasn't just in a friend way, he would use the words beautiful, babe and much more. I really fell for him & when I told him... He stopped texting me, he would ignore my messages because obviously he would of read them. He still acknowledges me whenever I see him, like with a smile. But avoids the question whenever I tell him how I feel (I've told him more than once) but it seems like I'm not getting anywhere. The only thing I could think of was telling him in person, so from across the room I mimed “what's wrong? Don't ignore my messages. You need to tell me where I stand” he was saying he couldn't hear me, and kept repeating what? I kept frowning and then laughing, then he started laughing. (I'm a teen at school also) when I got out of the room, he was stood with his friends so I didn't say a thing. I don't really know what to do? I never have a chance to speak up front. Now that I'm no longer at that school, I will hardly see him. Can someone please tell me what could be the possibly reasons for why he's done this? What I need to do, to possibly solve it? Please, that would be a massive help.
He sounds like a typical teenage player.
If he was interested then he would acknowledge you when you tell him how you feel and he would make an effort to talk to you.
Who knows why he lost interest. Perhaps he met someone else, perhaps he decided he didn't like you in that way, or perhaps he was just messing with you. You'll probably never know. Don't beat yourself up about it. You'll soon discover that there are many, many guys like this (and girls too I might add), who will play people and lead them on.
Move on and focus on meeting people at your new school.
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we have become close friends and even few times came very close to kissing, but nothing ever happened.
what am i to do?
Three years is not a big deal and wouldn't be a problem if it weren't for the obvious issue here. You are an adult. He is not. Any sexual relationship you might have would be illegal and depending on where you live could remain illegal for a couple of years. Be careful.
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I'm a 23 yrs old girl, I met someone online, and he was just the way I like.. I liked him & and he was so emotional, romantic, and caring. after a while, I fall in love with him, then I discovered that his real age about (37) and that he's already married and thereis noway for our relation to work. however, I continued with him and we had a cyber relation and met him only once in real.. now, we still talkin' to eachothers on the internet, and I we still like eachothers......... what is the expected future of this relation?
This relationship has never been real and he is a liar and a cheat.
If he is prepared to cheat on his wife, then he will cheat on you. He has already lied to you about his age and being married. He does not respect you (nor does he respect his wife, apparently) and you would be better off without him.
I know it's painful and difficult but you need to move on.
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Ok so I broke up with this guy, lets call him brendan. So I broke up with brendan a couple months ago because I got pressured by this other guy... =/ Brendan is so sweet and funny and nice and cute and totally the perfect package. (Note: I wont use the guy's real names) Anyways, this guy uhm call him Ryan pressured me to break up with brendan and then he asked me out and I said yes =( I broke up with Ryan after realizing what a jerk he is (only lasted a week) Its been 3 months since I broke up with Ryan. Yesterday, we went to Canadas Wonderland for a band trip. Brendan is in band but Ryan isnt. I've always liked brendan and we've come to be good friends. I flirt with him occasionally, he flirts back =) After playing 3 songs at this band thing we got to go on all the rides at 1pm and had to meet back at 6pm. Me and my friend decided to ask Brendan and one of his friends that she likes to be in our group. They said sure and so we ate lunch then went back to the bus to get our band instruments. After we played our instruments, we went to the bus to drop off our instruments and then get clothes to change in to. We went to the bath rooms to get changed and we told Brendan and his friend to meet us outside after. They both ditched... =( I was SO pissed off!!! After at 6, I saw him and went over to him and said "Your such a ditcher!" On the bus he walked by and smiled and I said, "I've never seen more of an asshole to ditch someone" His friend didnt feel well so me and Sydney had to switch spots and surprise surprise, it was behind brendan... He turned around and said "Im sorry for ditching, why was it so important to you that I was there anyways?" and I said "if you knew then you would understand" Brendan:"You like me dont you" Me:"how did you know" Brendan:"its obvious" Then I wore his hat for the rest of the 3 hour drive back home. He asked Sydney for a pen then started writing hand notes to me saying, "I dont know if I can do this again, if you liked me then you shouldnt have broken up with me in the first place" ANd I said, "I know, Im so freaking stupid. I understand..." and then we got home and he leans over to me and whispers into my ear "What I miss the most is your hugs" and I almost started crying. TOday, his friend comes over to me and he says " DO you like brendan?" me:" what makes you think that?" him:"he told me everything, he likes you too" and yeahh. ADVICE? All of this is overwelming. My other friend Emily told Brendan the real reason I broke up with him. So um opinions? I dont know what to do! HELP!!
If Brendan was so 'perfect' then you shouldn't have broken up with him. Either that or you aren't mature enough for a relationship or you wouldn't have allowed yourself to be 'pressured' by this other guy.
If you feel that you would like to give things with Brendan another go, then consider asking him to hang out as friends and see where things go from there. I find it unsurprising that he is hesitant to get back in a relationship with him considering you dumped him for someone else. If he decides that he'd rather not go there again then move on and learn your lesson. Next time perhaps you won't be so fickle.
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Is it a bad sign when your boyfriend splits his leisure time between you & his male friends
If my boyfriend DIDN'T do this I'd be worried.
Balance is important in any relationship and it wouldn't be healthy for either of you to spend ALL your free time together. Everyone needs space and time apart.
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What is your opinion on age gaps? I'm talking 16 and 21.. is it wrong? is it okay if you've known them for a long. Is it okay to be friends with people that much older than you. I'm 16 f and hes 21 m. im worried even being friends makes him look like a bad guy.
This is difficult.
As Roseyapple said, here in the UK this would be legal and does happen, although it isn't the norm. It is generally considered to be somewhat odd for an adult to want to be in a relationship with a child. You may well be mature for your age, but at 16 you are unlikely to have the same motives and priorities as someone of 21. It wouldn't surprise me if your friends and family viewed the relationship with suspicion.
Assuming you live in the US, unfortunately your relationship is probably illegal as you are under the age of consent in most states.
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14 (almost 15) female
My boyfriend and I have been dating officially for over a month now, but we've liked each other for a few years and we have been good friends for a long time. You probably think fourteen is too young to have a serious relationship, but I politely disagree.
My problem is that ever since the day we announced we were going out, it seems like everyone I meet has to put their two cents in. At school dances, people we hardly know watch us slow dance and take pictures while exclaiming how cute we are. Every time I speak to one of my relatives on the phone, they make rude jokes or snide comments. Most of my so-called "friends" make crude jokes and try to set the rules of our relationship.
These may not seem like major issues, but they do add up. I try to smile and laugh with these rude people, or sometimes I just ignore them. Lately, however, it's becoming more and more difficult. Please give me some advice on how to deal with these people, so my boyfriend and I can relax and just enjoy our relationships.
This is pretty standard.
My boyfriend and I are both in our 20's, we haven't been together very long and this happens to us frequently, especially when we introduce each other to friends for the first time.
Everyone enjoys a love story, and people often forget their place when it comes to passing comment or judging other people's relationships.
On top of that (and without patronising you), at your age relationships are still relatively new. It's likely that many of your friends have never had girlfriends or boyfriends before and it's probably fascinating for them. I also wouldn't be surprised if some of your friends were jealous of the fact that you have a boyfriend.
I know it's hard, but please try and ignore the comments, or politely ask these people to mind their own business. With close friends, I would suggest you tell them how you feel and ask them not to do it, but with others, you might prefer to offer a light hearted but firm comment (e.g. "It's funny, I didn't realise I was going out with you too!")
Eventually, the attention and fascination with you and your boyfriend will probably die down. A new couple will come along and be the hottest on the block. But until then, grit your teeth and congratulate yourself on having such a popular relationship!
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Is it slutty to send pictures of you in your underwear and bra to guys? I'm not fully naked so it has to be classy, right? What do guys think of girls who send them pictures? And is it cheating if the guy is in a relationship but I'm sending him pictures still?
First of all, I don't like the word 'slutty'. It's degrading and pointless. What is and isn't 'slutty' is entirely subjective. I tend to follow the rule: if it doesn't feel right, don't do it.
We have a few issues here.
1. If you are under the age of 18, you risk straying into some hazy territory relating to child pornography. If you do remove that underwear and take a picture of yourself, you are producing an illegal pornographic image. Send it to a guy and you are distributing it.
2. What do I personally think of girls who send guys pictures? Like I said, I don't like to judge but would I do it? Probably not. You need to question why you do it.
Now I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess that it's because it makes you feel good, you like that guys are finding you attractive, maybe even getting turned on by your pictures, and that raises your self esteem.
If that IS the case, then let me tell you this right now. Your self worth should not be measured on how attractive guys find your body. What are you getting from this deal in the long term? Sure, guys might be getting off from your pictures, does that really benefit you? You may feel good for a while, but the fact that you're even asking this question tells me that you aren't 100% comfortable with it.
3. Once you send those pictures, you lose control of them. They could go anywhere. They could potentially be around for years. Those guys might swear down that they won't send them on, but are you really willing to take that risk? Those pictures could get you into serious trouble and embarrassment further down the line.
4. Is it cheating? Well, I sure as hell wouldn't be happy if any boyfriend or girlfriend of mine received a picture of someone else in their underwear.
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I've been a Wiccan for a little over a year and been with my boyfriend a little under a year. I really want to tell him about my religion but I'm scared that he'll dump me because I'm not Christian, or try to change my mind. I love my boyfriend to death and I want him to accept me for who I am. I'm just scared to tell him. What should I do? He's a Methodist by the way. Should I be wary when I tell him? Please help.
Depending on how serious he is about his religion, he might well decide he'd rather not be with you. But the thing is, if you don't tell him, you're hiding a pretty big part of yourself from him and it'll end up messing the relationship up anyway.
You have to tell him. It might not work out. It might result in some pretty intense conversations and some hard decisions. Ultimately, if religion is a deal-breaker for your boyfriend, and you don't want to convert, then you may have to accept that the relationship won't work.
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What is a nickname for my boyfriend ?
I don't know.
And neither will anyone else on this website.
You know why? Because none of us know your boyfriend.
You can't just invent a nickname, what would be the point? Nicknames are spontaneous, personal things, not something you can find on an advice website.
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Hy, am priscal nd am 13 yrs old ten guys in my school are asking me out wat shld i do?
I don't think 10 guys have asked me out in my whole life, you're a lucky gal.
Seriously though, say no and focus on your school work. Especially your spelling.
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I am a 13 year old girl and my freind is 11 all of the
sudden she likes a 16 year old is that right is she to younge
another thing our moms say we are to younge to date is that true??
At 11, your friend is still a child. She is unlikely to have the emotional and physical capacity to have a relationship with anyone, especially not someone who is effectively a young adult. It is normal and okay to have crushes on older people, but at 11 it should remain just that: a crush.
As for dating, 13 is probably a good age to start dating in groups and spending time with both guys and girls, but again, I'd say you were still too young for a real relationship.
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I been with my boyfriend 4 months but before him I dated girls only I feel very confuse because I still like girls and i miss my gay life I love him but I'm not in love with him.
Sexuality is unimportant. It's stupid that there is so much pressure to put yourself in a certain category. You could be gay, straight, bi, with a girl, with a guy, the issue is that you are in a relationship you aren't happy with. Break up with him but don't beat yourself up about it and don't feel like you have to stick to only dating girls or only dating guys. Sometimes, as nice as a person may be, there just isn't the right chemistry. And that's okay.
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19/m
So, I just started college and there are a ton of cute guys that I want to talk to, my only problem is that I am too freaked out! There are two or three guys that I would like to try talking to, but I am too afraid to approach them. How do I just walk up to a guy and start talking to him? What should I say? I know for sure that one of them is guy, the others I am almost certain that they are gay. I just don't know how to walk up to them and talk to them. I am not a shy person, I just don't know how to meet people or intrdouce myself. I am so afraid that I will come across as immature or stupid. Any advice?
Find out if your college has a LGBT society/group. Most colleges/universities have them and it's a great way to meet other gay people and socialise. Talking to people in this kind of environment should make things easier because it takes away the worry about whether or not they're gay.
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Hi !I'm a 14 year old girl, dating a 16 year old boy. We've been dating him for almost 3 months & I love him a lot. We have a lot in common, were bestfriends, we rarely fight, talk / texting 24/7. Everyone says were perfect are we ?
No relationship is 100% perfect.
Sure, it sounds like you're getting on really great, good for you. But remember that if you've only been together for 3 months then it's likely you're still in the 'honeymoon' phase of the relationship, and there may be problems which haven't surfaced yet.
Also remember that some arguing is healthy and it's important to discuss any issues you have with each other. It's also important to have some time apart. Yes, texting/talking 24/7 feels good now, but eventually one or both of you will probably want some space.
I don't mean to put a downer on things. I'm just saying there's no such thing as a perfect relationship and it doesn't really matter either way. The most important thing is that you're both happy together.
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Sometimes iz it good to fake an orgasm
Not really.
Sure, it might make the other person feel good, but they'll never know you're not fully enjoying whatever they're doing if you don't tell them.
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can i get pregnant if my boyfriend fuck me from back side ?not to my front hole?
Nope, but you can get an STI so make sure he's wearing a condom before you let him put it in ANY of your holes.
Also, I should probably tell you that if he ejaculates inside or near your anus then there is a small chance of semen running into your vagina. In which case there is a chance you could get pregnant. But as you'll be using a condom, that shouldn't be an issue!
As a side note: please watch the language in future. There are a lot of young teenagers around here.
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I'm not racist by any means, but the area we live in is very much a white place. My daughter, 18, has begun to see a young man who I believe is in his early 20's. He seem's nice enough, he works and treats her well but he is an immigrant from the Caribbean, and we all have heard the stories about these types of men, I don't mind her being friends with him but I think she should not be seeing him on an intimate level, how can I tell her to not be with him without her resenting me? I am currently the only person she has told within the family about their relationship and if others find out I'm afraid they will disown her.
I've heard some pretty bad things about white men too, strangely enough.
You have absolutely no legitimate reason for being against your daughter's boyfriend. You said yourself he is nice and treats her well, so where's the issue? I can name thousands and thousands of men of ALL RACES who I've heard 'stories' about. I'm sure as hell not going to write off an entire race based on the actions of a minority of individuals.
Seeing as you don't consider yourself racist, it shouldn't be an issue for you to ignore the bigoted opinions of your family and neighbours should it?
Incidentally, I dated a black guy of Caribbean descent for a year and he was by far the most caring, kind and intelligent boyfriend I have had.
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why does my boyfriend of 1 and half years always calls me,''dear''? he just rarely calls me my name probably because he's older than me. he's 45 and i'm 31. or is it just a terms of endearment? thank you guys.
Most people in long-term relationships end up using some form of pet name or term of endearment, it's a sign of how comfortable the parties have become with one another. I highly doubt you have anything to worry about, if anything it's a positive thing. If you have a particular aversion to being called 'dear' then tell your boyfriend you'd rather he didn't use it.
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