about

My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

chat it up yo.


ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)

advice

My boyfriend and i got together in december and now its getting closer to valentines day. He's 14 so what should i get him?

You're young and haven't been together long, so I don't think you need to get him anything big or expensive.

Bake him some cookies.
Make him a mix cd.
Get him chocolates.
Get him some cologne.
Get him a picture frame with a picture of you two in it.

-Laura (20-f)

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So my one year anniversary is coming up and I was looking for ideas. I wanna do something cute and romantic for him but I'm not really creative when it comes to this stuff. We're both 20 by the way if that matters at all. Thank you!

How about taking him back to the place where you met/went on your first date/had your first kiss? It's always romantic to relive those milestones :)

Or maybe just a nice dinner at a restaurant you two haven't been to?

You guys can go stargazing. I always find stargazing very romantic :)

Hope this helps!


-Laura (20-f)

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My boyfriend hand a baby by someone else during the time we are together he attended all her classes, doc visit and birth i found out when the baby was 3 months

To put it simply: No. I could never, ever get over that.

-Laura (20-f)

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Hi I've been together with my boyfriend for almost a year now and I wanted it to be special. Since the only thing I'm good at is singing, I don't know any perfect song to sing. any suggestion??? please.

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=545691

From there:

1,2,3,4: Plain White T's.
Alive with the Glory of Love: Say Anything.
Amazing: Josh Kelley.
*At Least We Made It This Far: Relient k.
Baby, It's Fact: Hellogoodbye.
Best of Me: The Starting Line.
The Best Thing: Relient k.
California: Metro Station.
Candle (Sick and Tired): The White Tie Affair.
*Can't Stop: Maroon 5.
Check Yes Juliet: We The Kings.
*Closer to Love: Mat Kearney.
Die Alone: Ingrid Michaelson.
Getting Into You: Relient k.
Gravity: Sara Bareilles.
Hands Down: Dashboard Confessional.
Hanging by a Moment: Lifehouse.
Her Eyes: Pat Monahan.
Here in Your Arms: Hellogoodbye.
Hey Jealousy: Hit the Lights.
*I'm Yours: Jason Mraz.
I Caught Fire: The Used.
I Wanna: All-American Rejects.
It Had to be You: Motion City Soundtrack.
*Just the Way You Are: Bruno Mars.
Leave the Light on: A Kidnap in Color.
*Love Story: Taylor Swift.
Lucky: Jason Mraz & Colbie Calliat.
Maps: Yeah Yeah Yeahs.
Mine: Taylor Swift.
Must've Done Something Right: Relient k.
*My Beautiful Rescue: This Providence.
No Air: Jordin Sparks and Chris Brown.
No One Can Touch Us: Sing It Loud.
Only One: Yellowcard.
*Our Song: The Spill Canvas.
Oxygen: Colbie Calliat.
*Parachute: Ingrid Michaelson.
Realize: School Boy Humor.
Red Balloon: Backseat Goodbye.
Say it Again: Marie Digby.
She Will be Loved: Maroon 5.
So Much Love: The Rocket Summer.
Stolen: Dashboard Confessional.
That's So You: The Rocket Summer.
Thunder: Boys Like Girls.
Undeniable: Mat Kearney.
*Up and Up: Relient k.
*Use Somebody: Kings of Leon.
*The Way I Am: Ingrid Michaelson.
*Walls: All Time Low.
We're Going to be Friends: The White Stripes.
With You: Chris Brown.
Who Needs Air: the Classic Crime.
Why Can't I?: Liz Phair.
You Be The Anchor...: Mayday Parade.
You Belong With Me: Taylor Swift.
You Found Me: The Fray.
Your Guardian Angel: The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus.
Young Love: Gavin Degraw.

-Laura (19-f)

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Is it true if you ignore your boyfriend he will come back?

No, it's not true. If you ignore him, it will either:

a. make him angry.
b. make him upset.

You lose either way.


-Laura (19-f)

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a girl i like put this on my facebook And be happy for you,and what you want and desire..



what does she mean? is she meaning that towards her?

Nobody can tell you what this girl meant except for her.

My advice? Ask her.

-Laura (19-f)

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Hi(: My boyfriend says he wants to eat me out and I'm ready. Kinda. It would be my first time and I want to know how it feels like so I'm prepared. Is there also anyway that I can imitate that feeling? Or do I just have to wait?

There's really no way to imitate the feeling. You can't really prepare for it..

You're just going to have to wait it out. But most importantly- relax! If you stress out during it, it will make it awkward and unpleasant.

Just wait it out. You'll be fine :)

-Laura (19-f)

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My bestfriend has liked me a lot for awhile and I told him i just wanted to be friends. Its been a month since then and I think my feelings for him might be changing but im not sure. I want to know what it means if I think about him all the time and imagine us together and sometimes I get butterflies in my stomach when I think about him, but then when I see him at school the feelings go away. Can someone tell me if I might like him or if I still just think of him as a friend?

I was in a semi similar ish situation recently. You have to do like I did. Ask yourself this:

Can you imagine kissing him?
Can you imagine holding his hand and calling him your boyfriend?

Most importantly- do you feel like, yes, you can see those things happening because you genuinely like him? Or just because you know he wants those things.

I can't tell you how you feel. It seems that you don't even know. And that is perfectly ok. It isn't something you can or should decide over night. Give yourself time to really think about it and your true feelings will surface.


-Laura (19-f)

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Hey 13/F. I have dated this boy we broke up on the 26 January. Because he is moving tomorrow. We are still friends. But I feels like there is a hole punched in my chest. I am very sad and is crying every 5 min. How do I get over him?????? I really liked him and he me. Pleas help

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=564711


Honey, you're only 13. Trust me when I say this- it's not the end of the world. It WILL get better. It might not feel like it now, but it will. I promise :)


-Laura (19-f)

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Just curious for people's thoughts.

Yes.


-Laura (18-f)

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So im finally moving forward from a girl who basically broke my heart. Im talking to anther girl . this weekend that just passed by, i went over too her house and she literally threw herself at me. i didnt do anything just for personal reasons. Shes not my girlfriend. i dont wanna use her for sex. and i promised her i would be friend b4 anything. So thing are basically going well with the new girl. but now everybody is comparing the old girl to her. now i basically comparing to ; basically setting myself up for failure again. im making myself think so wrong of the new girl and she has done nothing to me as of yet.Im tryna be a person for her also , but i have some many unresolved things with the ex -.- so many questions that i know she wot answer.my mind is soo confused and i want to move on but cant help.

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=564711


Stay strong and good luck!


-Laura (18-f)

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So my boyfriend came over a week ago and we talked for about 3 hours...at first I was upset with him because I felt like we were growing apart and fighting a lot more about stupid things and he didn't want to talk to me and fix things. After a lot of tears, he finally broke through and told me how he felt. After that everything just flooded out from both of us and we made a huge 'break through' in our relationship. We both decided that even though we're in love, in the long run we probably weren't going to last. But I asked him if we were still going to try and he said yes of course...sooo we're still going out and things have been going better then ever since then but I was just wondering if this will be good for me. I love him and I love hanging out with him, but should I keep being with him if our personalities clash? We haven't gotten into any fights lately, but I'm sure we will eventually start again...I mean, yeah we fight a lot but the good times ALWAYS make up for the bad times...So what do you all think? Should I run this thing into the ground? Or might we actually have a chance? Any advice is good, thank you all so much.

Your relationships sounds a lot like mine. I've been in love with my boyfriend since I was 14 and we dated freshman year then got back together our senior year, broke up over summer, and now are back together. Overall, we've been together for over a year. Now, I might be biased because of this, but I'm going to try to help you out anyways. I've been in your position many times and have debated ending things with my boyfriend many times. I even did once, but I was miserable and we got back together.


My advice? If you love him and enjoy being with him, why give it up? Don't count him out. Don't expect that just because you hit a rough patch now means that you aren't meant to be together. People fight, it's completely normal. Especially when you love someone and are so close with someone. My boyfriend and I clash all the time, even over the dumbest and most minuscule things, but it doesn't mean we aren't happy and just because your personality clashes with your boyfriend's means you can't work out.

Maybe you won't end up together in the long run, but if there's one thing my boyfriend himself has taught me, it's to live in the now. Enjoy your time with him now and don't worry about the future. Like my boyfriend always says, "what's meant to be will always find it's way." Every experience in life teaches you something, and this relationship has been and will continue to be a great experience for the both of you, regardless of the long run outcome.


I hope this helps and I wish the two of you the best!


-Laura (18-f)

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My boyfriend broke up with me 4 months and I can't get over him. Last month he was saying he still loves me n misses me loads and wants nothing more than to have me back but he never mentioned getting back together so I stopped speaking to him n we haven't spoken for over a month now

I feel like I will never do better than him and he was perfect for me :( I dunno what to do I thought I'd be over it by now. I have to see him at least twice a week which make it worse :(

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=564711


From there:


I have found, firsthand, that the best way to get over a guy is to do the following:


Step 1: Have a really good cry.
- When my boyfriend and I broke up, I was super upset (like words cannot describe how bad I felt). But I told myself that I wasn't going to let it flip my entire world upside down. So I let myself have one really good cry, and then I told myself I'm going to start moving on. Which brings me to...


Step 2: Friends = lifesavers.
- Go to the mall and buy yourself something nice (don't over spend, though. Just something small, but nice. Like a new outfit or purse!) Or go see a movie, or out to dinner or something! Don't mope around your house all day doing nothing.


Step 3: Talk about it.
- It feels SO good to let it all out. Sit down with somebody you trust (for me, it was my mom) and just spill your heart out. Again, don't let it ruin your life or impact you too much.


Step 4: Move ON!
- Stop talking to him for a while (you need to give yourself time to get OVER him). Don't stalk his Facebook, spend time with other people, and don't even waste time TALKING about him.


-Laura (18-f)

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I know this sounds odd but i'm curious. (this is mostly for girls but guys can answer to if they want).

Would you feel comforable watching porn (or a sex scene in a movie) with your bf/husband?

I don't mind watching sex scenes in movies with my boyfriend at all.


As far as porn goes, I don't watch it by myself, so I really wouldn't want to watch it with him. I guess if a girl is into that, I could see a couple watching porn together, but I don't watch porn so I really wouldn't know my level of comfort watching it with him or even without him.


-Laura (18-f)

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ok like i wanna hold hands and kiss my girlfreind or hug her you know.but im not sure how to make the first move so i could use some advice

If she's already your girlfriend, it really isn't a big deal. Personally, I like when my guy moves his hand over and finally just grabs my hand. Something else cute that girls love, is when you surprise them and hug them from behind. As for the kiss, make sure that both of you are ready, wait for a good moment, and just go for it. Just go for a simple, nice kiss, not some huge, sloppy make out session.


-Laura (18-f)

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i need to lose weight so i can feel better about myself.

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=569112


-Laura (18-f)

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15/f
i was talking to my boyfriend and we started talking about sex (we were sending dirty messages etc. no pix). a little while later we started talking about our future and he said that he wanted to have sex for real and asked how i felt about it. i told him i wanted to stay a virgin and he told me that hurt his feelings and he got mad. then i got mad at him for thinking i would actually just hop in bed with him and we got into a fight. he said he was sorry but im still mad. what do i do?

Don't do anything you're not ready for. If he truly cared for you, he wouldn't pressure you or force you into anything that you are not comfortable with. You're still so young and have so much time ahead of you for sex and everything else under the sun. Sex is a big deal, and if you're not ready for it, don't feel like you have to do it, because you don't.


Stand by what you believe, and if he can't stand by your side and support you, he's definitely not worth it.


-Laura (18-f)

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17/m .hi there.been going out with this girl for nearly a month now and was wondering whether i need to get her a gift .if yes then what would be good things to get?was thinking just some chocolates and a card.anyway.Thanks:)

If you are going to get her a gift, get something simple. It's only one month, but she would more than likely still appreciate a nice gesture.


Why not take her out for a nice (but not too fancy, of course!) dinner? That and flowers would be perfect in my opinion :)


-Laura (18-f)

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i really would like to have ideas! i want it to be memorable (: thank you in advance!

My boyfriend asked me via fortune cookie. I'll never forget it and everyone I told thought it was the coolest thing. :)


-Laura (18-f)

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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long!

He made a Facebook group and posted private things about your relationship? Dump this scumbag. Who does that?


-Laura (18-f)

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