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I'm 21 years old, have had my share of different types of relationships so I enjoy answering love life questions. Whether it's about getting closer emotionally or physically don't hesitate to ask, hopefully I'll be able to help. I also love the medical field and will be a registered nurse soon. If you have any questions regarding a recent medical diagnosis (don't ask for one please, not a doctor) I can help you better understand it and the treatment as well

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There is this guy I secretly like but my friend told him I like him and she has no clue that I actually do. She went kinda too far with it though and I feel so bad for him because I haven't been able to talk to him through this period of stuff my friend has done to us. I'm going to apologize to him on Monday but I don't know him well enouhg to say I like him. Is it wise to tell him I want to get to know him better? How should I deal with this? Thanks!

Your on the right tract; you don't know him well enough to like him so your "interested" in him. When you apologize to him tell him what your friend really meant (that you want to get to know him better) and ask him for his number or if hed like to do something over the weekend

ok so everytime a guy i like asks me out out of nowhere, i feel like its a dare or something. So a guy i like asked me out today but i was not expexting it at all he was just like "will you go out with me" on facebook and i do but i would be sooo embarrassed if it was a dare and that way if it was i could say i was kidding. u know what i mean??? WHAT DO I SAYYYY??? Im 13 btw /=

I'd have to disagree with advice man, it's more of a matter of if your ready to date at 13, but I can see his point because most aren't. I suggest you don't date just anybody; make sure your interested in him, like thing about him and want to get to know him better. This way it actually has a chance to go somewhere and he's not a immature child that would actually ask you on a date then say he was joking (obviously someone that's not ready for it).
Don't say yes to a boy that's asks you out on Facebook... That's just bad. It says he probably doesn't know you (just knows who you are), so how could he possible like things about you?
Gl

How t do move your tounge when you makeout, I want to but im scared I will mess up!!!!!!! Im tired of people calling me prude. I mean ive kissed guys and all. But i wanna makeout. I have a boyfriend and he is experienced. i dont wanna disapoint him and get a bad rep. help?!?!?!?
im 14

You have a bigger problem. Let's use our brains here for a minute, and think ahead like most teenagers dont. Say I tell you the secret to being the best kisser there is, you do it and then your happy. In couple months or a year or two The same things going to happen, but next time it's going to be hand jobs, bjs, or sex. What are you going to do about that? Are you going to be stupid enough take be a slut because other sluts want you to? Or is kissing your limit?
Being good at making out isn't going to make you happy, being your own person and not what people want you to be will. Listen to me or don't you'll find that out for yourself, be smart and dont let it be the hard way

im thirteen, girl. My crush for the past year is moving away! we are sorta friends. we talk if we sit next to each other in class (assigned seats) but it seems like he really likes talking to me. theres still about three months before he moves. do i tell him now, cuz i REALLY WANT TO! How do i do it? Can i just go up to him? And does he like me?
**????**

You should Leave it at a crush; long distance relationships are hard and even when things are perfect between the two people. If you decide to tell him and he does like you then you'll be with each other for 3 months and then he's going to be gone and your not going to be fine with that.
So just stay friends; if you become any more than that your really only setting yourself up to get hurt, sorry

No clue.... Haha don't worry about it though, situation doesn't even apply :) lol

I checked my feed back, you did :). Glad you didn't let that stuff get to you

Haha uh yeah that question? That was from forever ago?

You did get my answer though right?

I'm a 15 year old female and i've been playing guitar for many years. Do guys find it attractive/a turn on when they meet a girl that plays guitar/is very into music?

I don't think it would be a turn on. For those who are into music it would be plus. I haven't met a girl that's into music as much as i am. I've been playing the guitar for about a year and a half; and none of my friends play so i can't really talk to them about tabs, music, guitars and stuff.
So ya for me it would be a really really big plus

In my psychology class we trade tests, and someone random grades it. I was going over my test to see what I got wrong for my final thats coming up, and realized a bonus question was counted wrong. The answer I wrote on the bonus question was identical to what we'd written in our notes/the correct answer. My grader counted it wrong, and that question is worth 5 points.

I got an 89 on this test, and if i'd gotten a 90, i'd be able to exempt the final. well, if my answer had been counted right, i would have a 94, therefore being able to exempt the final. the thing is, we took this exam on sept 23, and i only noticed now when reviewing for my final.

do you think its worth showing my teacher, and trying to get the extra points? thank you!

That's a tough one, but if your a honest and good student i think you should let your teacher know. If he/she says no then well at least you gave it a shot

16F

Could anyone list any good reasons why a guy would completely ignore a girl out of nowhere? Like this guy has known I liked him for several months andwe barely talked about it but we texted each other a couple of times and he truly made it seem like we were still good friends and out of nowhere he started ignoring me..it's been two weeks now. And he told my friend that it's because I'm boring and annoying but it really doesn't add up because in the conversations we had he was holding up the conversation more than I was, and it's relatively easy to tell when someone is annoyed with you and he wasn't. I did nothing wrong and I'm trying to move on from him but it's hard to when I have no idea what his issue is and he won't speak (I only texted him the first day it's started, and twice two weeks later, which is like friday and today. what I'm trying to say is I know my limit, I'm not nagging him to answer me). Also he completely freaked at my friend for telling me some of the things she told me he said about me (long story how he found out), like he completely FREAKED, and hes still mad now but he still is actually responding to her when she speaks to him...so if I did nothing wrong, why is he ignoring me? We've been past the fact that he knows I like him for a couple months, and that we were just friends. And me being annoying, and I admit i can be at times, hasn't stopped anyone from talking to me? And he's talking to someone that he's even angrier with? I mean he does tend to deal with things by not talking about them at all, but this is just ridiculous. It's just a really confusing frustrating situation and it seems simple to just move on and get over it but when someone is completely ignoring you out of the blue like that and you can't understand why its just not easy to. We were good friends and he was TRULY acting like it in the conversations we had before he started ignoring me. Can I just get some reasons of why someone would do this? Postive or negative, hurtful or logical, anything, just list anything you think could make sense.

There really isn't an excuse for just completely ignoring you since you were still just friends. But you did say that you liked him, did he say he liked you back? If he did then maybe he found something that bothered him about you. Maybe you got into talking about past relationships or maybe he found out about yours from your friend. That could be a reason. Another could be he's talking to an ex or another girl he "likes" and didn't want to lead you on. There could be alot of reasons think about the last things you talked about. And gl

Okay, so, this past month my one best friend, he started liking this girl he met on myspace and facebook. She lives really close and whatever, so it's not like it'd be an online relationship if they'd date.

She had really strong feelings for him and he really likes her. She'd tell all her friends how cute he was, and how special he was, and whatever. And then she went to a party, and started talking to one of her guy friends who has a crush on her. She told my friend she kind of likes the other guy more now. They eventually met then.

Now, it elevated once again. She completely doesn't like him anymore, and just wants the other guy instead. Now my friend is in this big state of depression and I don't know what to say. I've been telling him to move on, that he doesn't need these games, but he just gets angry.

So.. What should I tell him?

Don't bring it up just be there for him. Try to keep his mind off of it you can ask him if he wants to hang out or something. Right now he's not ready to talk about it but he will be. Good Luck

Boys we can't live with or with out them . I really have a friend but I think he likes me so what should I do should I go and ask him do you like me or something . What should I do .

I don't think you should ask him if he likes you unless you like him too because its just going to put him in a awkward position. Good luck figuring it out.

So I'm in grade 10, and last year i met a girl who i didnt know even existed until we were seated together and as soon as i saw her i thought to myself she sure is pretty. but as she began to talk to me and i learned about practically her life i realized i really liked her, not because of her looks. We spent as much time as friends for 4months and i told her i liked her. she said she like me too. Now this is where it starts to go downhill. I never got around to asking her out because I didn't want to rush things and I didnt know how strict her parents were so i laid low for abit. But then after awhile we stopped talking. I don't know if she was avoiding me or if she wanted me to start a conversation because she used to start all the conversations but we stopped talking. The smart thing to do was to confront her but i couldnt, i felt mad but sad at the same time. Now in grade 10 we barely talk we exchange hello's and goodbyes, but i can't stand it. Just when she looks at me from across rooms it makes me feel like the old days when we liked each other, or when she gets really red when she does something embarassing infront of me. i want to ask her out but at the same time i dont want to kill what little we have now. It's driving me mad =S. sometimes we have long talks on msn about the old memories during the night but that doesnt cut it for me. She means so much to me and I don't think i'll ever get her back. What should i do?

You should try to be the good friends you use to be. Start the conversations during school and maybe not saying she doesn't still have them but her feelings for you could come back. I'm sure the reason why she stopped was because she didn't think you where going to ask her since you never got to it. This time don't let time pass you by if she tells you she likes you ask her out. Best of luck

Hi,
So I am 15 and I am in high school and I get made fun of non stop now I know its not because Im fat because a girl that makes fun of me is fat also and I know its not because I have glasses because I just got contacts, I try to be nice to people and if they are nice to me Im nice to them, I would really like some advice on how to make people like me more thanks!!

Just be yourself the nice person that you are. If you try to make people like you by being someone that you aren't sure your going to make friends but there not the friends that you want. And she is right about smiling and saying thanks. I do it all the time but i say "thanks i take that as a complement". Good luck dont let them know it bothers you or they will keep on doing it.

Hi, I'm nisma but my this is a problem of my friend,She used to hv a boyfriend but he broke up with her but she still likes him a lot and she says that he uses to say good things like"Imagine if Karla was here" but in front of her he acts mean.and she is asking that what she can do make him like her!! she loves him a lot

I don't think its possible to love someone if they don't love you back. She can really care about him but the only thing that she can do is show how much she cares about him. If she is already doing that its in his hands. But if he acts so mean around her why does she care about him so much? She needs too move on from him there is no use in trying to make someone love you if they are not atleast considerate of you. Tell your friends best of luck

There's this guy who acts like he likes me, a lot, he's always texting me and calling me. And I think he's really sweet and funny and cute- but sometimes I think he is desperate. He has been trying to start a relationship with a few girls for a time, but they haven't worked out... and now that I'm single he's hitting on me. Should I give it a go? Or am I just gonna get taken advantage of because he's desperate to have a gf no matter who it is?

I don't think that its a good idea to get into a relationship because one of the 2 is despret. Most of those relationships don't tend to last long. But if you like him then take the chance and go out with him. Good luck

13/f

Okay, so me nad this guy like each other. Sounds simple right? Just go out? One problem. I don't date because I have this thing where I DO NOT trust guys. My last relationships sucked, so... And, I don't know why he doesn't date. But, I know I can trust him. I mean, he's sweet. Nice and everything... I mean, perverted, but that's me too. We're both perverted. Like, ya know? Dirty jokes? No, I would not have sex with him even if I wanted to. *shudders* Anyway, I just want to know what I should do at this point. I mean, he knows I like him. I know he likes me. We're both aware of this, but what do we do? Can somebody NICE please help me?

p.s I mean nice as in, nice advice. And, no comments about being perverted. That's me, not you. I am me. :3

I know this probably not what you want to hear but... you need to start trusting guys i know you probably where in a bad situation at once but you got to give the others a chance. If you are sure he likes you then there isent much holding you back from telling him how you feel and that you are ready to take the next step. Best of luck

ok i am gay and well my manager is bi and he said that he liked me.. i really dont like him in a sexaul way but he also calls me and texts me "i miss you" and " i want you" he always makes me laugh, the biggest problem is that i can be a flirt.. besides stop being a flirt what should i do?

Next time you see him let him no that your not interested in having a relationship with him i think he will understand. If he asks why just tell him the truth. Best of luck

So i am starting to like this guy i work with! He just started working at my store... I am not sure if he likes me or not.. but i was just wondering if it is weird or not to date someone you work with?? and if we ever dated should we keep it a secret from everyone we work with?

It's not weird if you date someone you work with. I know alot of relationships that start like that. And if you do start dating him it would be best if you did keep it a secret from the other workers unless they are trustworthy. Best of luck

whats an online relationship?
like i know its a relationship online, but what consists of it?
Like do you meet the person online?
What goes on?

A online relationship is when you stumble upon a good person over the internet most likely find common interests one of them tells them how they feel like they want to be more then friends basically asking you out but its more complicated since its long distance most of them time. Online relationships are very difficult to work unless both are committed. What i like about online relationships are that people look at you for whats on the inside not on the outside. So if you do ever get into one don't be embarrassed to say it. I know plenty of people that are. I hope i didn't leave anything out. Also if you do get into one be careful there are a lot bad people out there try not to give more information about yourself then you have to.

15/f

when a guy asks for your number, after you give it to them are u supposed to ask them what their number is also??

Yes you should if you want to get to know him better if you don't he is gunna think that your just being nice and feel sorry for him.

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