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Q: Hi, I am 17 F and last year I had a massive fall out with the girl I had been best friends with for 10 years. I was properly horrid to her and she was horrid to me as well. The argument went on for months and she started to turn the whole school against me until I had no friends. Over the summer vacation we all got over it and came back to school better but we never really talked again. Any way I started to notice that she was getting thinner and thinner and suddenly she wasn't in school any more. I asked the teachers where she had gone and it turns out she had been batteling with anorexia nuvosa. It started to get really bad and she went downhill majorly. She is now in hospital and has been given 3 months to live because she is so thin. I feel terrible because I didn't support her when she clearly needed help instead I was angry with her. It's my fault she is going to die because I ignored her and was mean and I don't know what to do. I am not allowed to go see her because she has been sectioned. Please help
Let's be clear about one thing- This is absolutely NOT your fault. I am absolutely sure that she would tell you that herself if she could. She would not want you to be burdened with this guilt over something that even she could not control. Write her a letter to let her know how much you valued her friendship and let her know that you are thinking of her. Send her things to remind her of the good times you've had together. Little things like this will mean a lot to her, just knowing that someone is thinking of her.

Thanks, that makes me feel more confident. I will deffinatlet write to her. Thanks again

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