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At the end of November I found my biological siblings. I have a brother who is a 36 year old grown man. We bagan to talk through text and on the phone and seemed to gotten along well. My problem is that in the past month, he has sent me 3 digusting photos of his penis. I explained to him the first 2 times in a calm mannr that I am his sister and it is comple yr elt unacceptable behavior and makes me very uncomfortable. The third time, I lost my patience and decided to tell him like it was. He didnt seem to take me seriously...he is a great guy and we get along sooo well when he acts normal. Now I am in a debate whether to meet him and hope he processes it or run for the hills. I met with my biological sister and told her about him flirting with me, I did not tell her about his photos because I felt it was better unsaid. Is he not getting it? Maybe he is a creep?... Do I try and meet him? Help
Not only is you brother being inappropriate towards you. He is sexually harassing you by sending inappropriate pictures to you over the Internet. Something else that can be deemed as illegal since you are not wanting or accepting of these pictures.
The sending of pornographic material to you does not make your brother a child molester as was his father, neither does it rule him out as one. Studies do show that if molested as a child molested children are more likely to molest as an adult. If your brother has children then this is something his wife needs to know about so she can take the appropriate action to protect her children.
As for you meeting with your brother? My advice would be that you do not. Instead I would advise that you once again tell him that his actions towards you are not acceptable, are unwarranted and illegal. That if they continues to harrass you you will have no choice but to report him to the police. You can decided if you want to tell him you have or will advice his wife of his actions should you decided to do so, if he is married w/children. If he is married and has children I would strongly suggest you do speak with your sister in-law so she can make sure her children have not been harmed.
You have done nothing wrong here and are the one being harmed. Nothing says that had you not been taken from your parents and adopted out what is happening would not have happened and may have happened sooner. It may have even lead to your brother molesting you as a younger sibling.
We can only advise you to do what we would do in your situation or what we feel is right in this situation. You have the final say in what you should do. As his children's Aunt if you suspect your brother may be a child molester, as much as it might hurt to advise his wife or even the police. You have every right and the responsibility to protect you niece or nephews from him.
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