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13/F/91 Pounds/5 Foot 1
So my dad always calls me fat... He always says stuff like "Yet, you're eating again." And "You're gonna explode!" Yet, HE'S THE FAT ONE. My pants are WAY too big for me and he says stuff to always put me down.
I eat 1200 calories a day - Is that too much? Should I drop to 800? I'm seriously starting to feel terrible about myself.. :( Please help me!
You are about 10 to 15 pounds under weight for your age. Being underweight is worse than being overweight by the same amount. At your age being underweight can for one thing stunt you normal development that is meant to take place during puberty.
Now as for your father calling you fat. By your own writing you are not fat; as I have said above you need to gain weight to be at a healthy weight. By calling you fat for whatever reason when you are not in any way fat. This to me is a form of child abuse. Mental cruelty, which is what he is doing is a form of child abuse.
If you mom can not talk to him and make him stop or if mom is no longer with you. Then you need to talk to a trusted adult about what is happening at home. This trusted adult could be a trusted teacher at school or your school principal. Tell them what is going on and they have rules to follow that will get dad some parenting help to stop this abuse.
Continuing to be this much underweight or losing more weight can be very harmful to you physical well being. Being underweight can cause problems with your Kidneys, Heart and lungs.
Only your doctor can tell you for sure what is a practical weight you should be and the minimum calorie count you need to take in a day based on you daily activity's.
Once you talk to a teacher or principal you need to see a doctor for a complete exam and find out what your proper weight should be. Then have the doctor tell you how many calories a day you need to take in to get to that weight. Once at your proper weight you will need to know how many calories a day you need to maintain that weight.
(Rating: 3) My dad doesn't abuse me, and I don't take it as abuse either.