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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.
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My dad cheated on my mom with two women and now he regrets it but he also wants my mom back when their divorce. my dad hurt us so much even when he was with us. I realize my dad use to be the best dad to me growing up but once I grew up more me and my dad dont get along my dad left me with an emty space inside of me I dont know what to do. I have anxiety problems and I have social issues negative thoughts with fear..help...
I'm not quite sure how to answer you as some of the dynamics of the situation you write about are missing. Your 17 which means you still live at home and if mom and dad were to get back together it would have some effect on you. You did not say how mom feels about she and your dad getting back together which is where the problem of offering you advice comes in.
Some generic advice would be: That this is really something that is between you mom and your dad. Yes whatever they decide does have an effect on you and I can understand why you are feeling hurt and how he may have hurt you before he left.
Your role at the moment though,since I assume you are living with your mother, is to tell her how you feel about them possibly getting back together. Just remember though this is her life. While I am sure she will take your feelings into consideration should she decide to take your father back, you have to accept her decision without aggression towards either of them.
Your 17 and legally you only have to live with the situation for a year before you can move out and live on your own. Before you do that and while you are still living at home I do have one suggestion for you.
You write,"I have anxiety problems and I have social issues negative thoughts with fear." This is not good and could even be considered harmful. You need the help of a qualified therapist, someone you can confide in who you can trust to keep your confidence and tell you deepest and darkest secrets to. A therapist who can then help you work through these problems to resolve them some the problems you wrote about go away.
I'm sure some but not all of the problems are related to your parents problems. By having a confident you can talk to you can resolve these problems in a healthy manner.
(Rating: 5) Thanks!!! You helped a lot and your right About everything sorry I didnt put that much information.