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I babysit until midnight for this woman, so she can't drive me home. Her kids are in bed and they have school the next morning, so shed have to wake them up. So, she has one of her coworkers drive me home. He's really nice.. But, he's gay. I feel really uncomfortable about it. I sensed it the first time he drove me home, he said a house was pretty. And then I told him I liked country music and he said, So reba? I think she's country i know she has a tv show... And well I haven't ever heard a straight guy say anything like that! So I decided to facebook him and well it turns out he is in fact gay and in a relationship for 20 years with a man.... What should I do? I just feel so weird about this! The bible says homosexuality is a sin and I'm associating with someone who is choosing to live in sin with a man!
You have a right to your beliefs especially your religious beliefs and I will defend to the death that right. Where you are wrong is trying to impose your religious beliefs or personal beliefs on others.
The man had about as much choice about being gay as you did in being straight. It is how you are born. It is something that was encoded in him long before he was borne. It was not a choice, it is not a sickness nor is he mentally ill.
Now if this person was female and a lesbian who was trying to seduce you, I am assuming you are a women, then you would have something to feel uncomfortable about. But this person is not trying to seduce you and in fact may be going out of his way to give you a ride home.
As for a guy saying something is pretty does not mean he is gay for there are things that cannot be described in any other manor. As for the Reba comment I'm hard pressed to see how you see him being gay from that comment. Reba is country and at one time I believe she did have a TV show. I'm straight, married with one child.
I would suggest you be more accepting of other people and their life styles; whether they be gay or goth or anything else. Its their life; in one instance of my example one is a chosen style in the other it was how they are born. In both cases this is what makes life so interesting.
I have known many gays and I am friends with several. They are wonderful people and for the most part just looking at then you can't tell. One guy I'm friendly with who is gay is a firefighter with me. If he was the firefighter who would be saving your life would you rather die than accept his help.
(Rating: 5) It wasn't the comments that made him gay to me. It was his voice and the way he said it. Also I was right I looked him up on facebook and he has been in a relationship with a dude for 20 years. And I am just going to grin and bear it. As long as he mentions nothing of him being gay or of his partner I can deal with it. And I appreciate that he is going out of his way to get me home. I just am uncomfortable with the fact that at night he goes home to another man. I find his lifestyle choice, yes choice. (THere is no proof they were born this way.) to be repulsive. As long as long as he mentions nothing of his nasty ways we will not have an issue.