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hey guys so my boyfriend and I have sex and fool around. after sex and "fingering" is it normal for the "inner flaps" of the vagina to swell (not huge but definitely swell) and feel raw? thanks so much :) (link)
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If your genitals are raw, irritated etc. etc. and it hurts WAIT let it heal properly, and don't do anything other than bathe them when you shower or bath until they do. From then on make him be gentle or it will be an endless painful cycle until he learns that it actually hurts.
You will be fine then. As for fooling around and sex don't until healed. Keep it above waist and yes, sex every day is a little much slowing it down isn't so bad. When it comes to guys we're ahem rougher with our genitals and some of us haven't figured out or weren't educated that women's genitals, folds, etc. are way more sensitive. Just point it out to him that "I know you didn't mean to hurt me but this is too rough.."
Also try wearing underwear (cotton) or pajama bottoms only at night that allows that area of the body to breathe more. It may help it heal but it won't if your genitals are stimulated in any fashion while blood raw or sore. At least that's what I read on Scarleteen, and medical sites about that while researching.
MY ORIGINAL ANSWER IS AS FOLLOWS:
Ouch. Like the previous poster said it will be fine. However, you should tell your boyfriend that it's to rough and your female parts are delicate. He needs to know you are blood raw down there.
You need to communicate to him what you enjoy on your own so he can adjust from hurting you inadvertently to having you enjoy it without any pain afterwards. Swelling is normal as that can also happen to labia from the activity and arousal in general. Overall you're fine. No worries.
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Awesome thank you so much! I'm not sure if u can actually reply to this.. But if u can please respond... What if we fool around almost everyday? Will it get worse? Thank you so much even if u don't/ can't reply :)
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