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I met my friend back about 2 months ago when she first moved into the apartment complex. This woman is 52 and lives alone. I live across the hall from her so I would visit often. We both gradually started getting into refurbishing our old furniture, shopping together and hanging out. We seemed to of got along very well. (I am 27) suddenly, yesterday I come home from my mothers to find all my board games I gave too her grandson in front of my door with a note that read already have thanks anyway then to find out she removed me from Facebook and now walks by me like I don't exist?. I don't know what the hell too think. I went out of my way to help her many times. I even texted and called her bit no answer. I am not good with confrontation in person...should I move on or what?
I can only think of two possible reasons for her behavior. Is it possible that you may have missed some type of overture from her that has hurt her? The other is someone may have said something about you, true or untrue, that she has come to decide to believe.
In either case it would be hard, living across the hall from each other to simply move on. There needs to be some sort of closure. I would suggest you write her a note and slip it under her door. the note would say something to the effect.
I have no idea what I could have done or said to upset you so that it has ruined a friendship I have come to value. If I have done anything like that am truly sorry and apologize. Whatever I may have said or may have done I can assure you was done without thought and was never intended to hurt you. On the chance someone has said something about me or our friendship I would like to know what that is so I can either explain, disprove or in the case of our friendship; if it has anything to do with our ages forget what others may have said. I am not looking for a mommy figure I wanted and found a friend that simple.
The note does not have to be exactly like that but it has what I think may be the problem(s) that caused her to terminate the friendship. You end the letter with. If our friendship is over I would at least like to know the why or the what so I can deal with it. Now all I am is hurt. I think you owe me at least an explanation as to why. My door is always open to you.
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Great advice. I am puzzled on the possibility if someone did say something about me though. I have always been friendly and kept too myself and never caused trouble. Yes, I will write her that letter. Thank you very much