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Okay, so ive always been this happy , never mean cheerful girl. Sometimes i would even keep stuff to myself & let people step over me.. All of a sudden ive been speaking my mind alot & all of a sudden the friends i usally hang out with are really annoying me. I dont even feel happy anymore. Ive been in a mad/sad kind of weird mood. I've been judgeing people alot. I dont like that. Its like i turned into a whole diffrent person out of the blue. I have so much bottled up in me. I dont feel like i can talk about this to anyone. I dont even feel like i have friends honestly. Sometimes i just feel like crying but i dont because i keep telling myself that theres no reason to cry. What should i do not to feel this way? ): btw im 16
As you may be aware none of us are doctors so we cannot make a diagnoses.The advise we give is based on experience. As someone who is old enough to be your grandfather the advise I am offering is based on raising my on family.
There are two possibilities at work here. The first is the ever changing hormones of puberty and how they effect you as they enter your life. At times these hormones disrupt your life to the point that as you describe you don't know who you are. This is where the second possibility comes in. When I was your age our parents called it a phase we were going through, something we would grow out of. Today doctors recognize it for what it is and put a name to it. They call it teenage depression.
Teenage depression is brought on by a number of factors the two most common are hormones and stress. Hormones are a given and stress? Lets face facts here, today's teenager has more stress placed on them then any teenager in the past. Today's teenager has the same stresses as their predecessors such as making their way into the adult world, getting good grades in school, new social circles and preparing for college. Then they have they added problems or stress of what is expected of today's teenager. Today's teenager is expected to be more self sufficient, more worldly, has more sexual pressure placed on them, both self imposed and externally imposed. That is just the short list.
Stress is the major factor in depression. Stress causes pain, real and emotional, which causes more depression. This is called the cycle of depression. You need to break the cycle by finding out what the stressors are. This takes the help of a professional therapist and possibly some medication.
To find out if you are suffering for depression you visit your family doctor and ask to tested or screened as it is called for depression. It is a simple test where you answer a number of questions. Based on your answers the doctor can decide if you fit the diagnoses for depression. If so the doctor will recommend what you need to do to overcome this.
Back in the day as we old folks now say most of us did out grow out of this phase. But why suffer as you are when help is available and actually quite simple and painless.
You are old enough by Federal Law to see a doctor without parental knowledge or permission for something of this nature. So if you do not wish to discuss this with your parents you do not have too.
If you do not want mom and dad to know at this time and you can get yourself to your doctor without mom or dads assistance; I suggest you do so. Once the doctor makes a diagnoses you can discus with the doctor how to proceed. The doctor can if you want help explain to your parents what is going on and what help you may need.
In your case I can assure you there is a light at the end of the tunnel. You must decide if you want to go to the tunnel or wait for the tunnel to come to you.
(Rating: 5) Thank you for all the info. (: appreciate it.