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okay so i know this is stupid of me to ask but i feel like when i ask people i know i don't get an honest answer. im 5'2 i have light blonde hair that ends right at my boobs its usually curled or in beach waves im a 34DD in a bra i have light blue eyes i usually half to get like a size 8 in dresses since my boobs are so big and have the dress made smaller in the waist i definitely have curves and a butt my waist is smaller and i have big thighs i get really nervous and awkward when i half to get in a bathing suit because i have 2 scars on my stomach. i get told im pretty all the time but i just can't bring myself to believe it i also hate going places because i feel like everywhere i go im being judged (link)
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There's actually two issues to deal with here and not one. I'll tackle the being judged part first. Try and think really, really hard back to when that feeling of being constantly judged kicked in and who and or what first triggered it.
Next, tell yourself that these feelings aren't your normal way of thinking. It could in fact be depression or something else sending those constant negative, untrue thoughts about you through your brain.
It would be a great thing if you actually told your parents how you feel. Ask them to discuss this with your doctor and teachers and find support and a professional to talk to to put them behind you.
Hopefully you will see that more people like you than you ever thought did. But yes it could be a medical thing making you think like that.
As far as being pretty goes... It's really you that you need to be concerned with and your opinion of self and acceptance of your own body as being beautiful that needs to trump whatever someone else may think. You can't control what anyone else thinks at all. If you like how you look than that's key. You're fine.
You never mentioned how you got the scars on your stomach. I'm assuming an accident or surgical scars. If I were you I would wear whatever swimsuit you wanted scars or not. I promise you nobody at the pool will be concerned about them. Most people at the pool are probably hoping you don't notice their thighs, acne, beer gut etc. Just have fun at the pool.
If any idiot starred or asked how it happened make a joke about "battle scars" or "wrestling gators." or whatever as the moment you show you have a self-deprecating humor about it nobody will be thinking about it.
I actually challenge you to go to an indoor public pool at a community center this week and see if I'm wrong. Drop me a note as I KNOW there's no reason to be concerned or not to wear the suit you want. All that matters is how you view yourself and having fun.
I understand that it must be hard to be 5 ft 2 and have developed in the fashion you have to have adult curves, bust etc. as an adolescent. Boys can be awful. If this bothers you try talking to your mom about it and your doctor about self-image. Let me know how you fare. But definitely get to work on learning to accept yourself as you'll feel a ton better once you start talking to people about this rather than keeping it inside.
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i got the scars from emergancy surgery i actually have a couple from surgerys but those are the only ones that are really noticeable ones long and diagnal right above my boobs the other is straight across my stomach above my belly button
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