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So my boyfriend(more like fiance) is a smoker and has been doing so since he was 19 or so(he's 35) and I wanna get him to quit.
He's not a huge smoker. When he's not sharing he probably goes through a pack every 2-3 days or so but I still want him to stop.
However, he lives with two smokers, and says quitting until he moves out is "not gonna happen".

Is he right to say that? Is that a realistic thing to say or more an excuse?

He says once he moves out he'll work on quitting. I kinda want him to stop now but I wanted your guys honest opinions...

thanks!

I would say give him the benefit of the doubt that he means what he is saying. Trying to quit smoking is tough to so in the first place. It is even tougher to do if you live with people who smoke. Smoking a pack every 2 to 3 days is not that big a deal and should make it easier for him to quit once he is away from his roommates.

Smoking is also like any other vice. You can beg, holler and scream to no avail. Until he is ready to quit on his own it won't happen. My advice is to tell him you will hold him to his word and drop the subject for now. One thing you can ask him to do and he should do if you ask is not to smoke around you if it bothers you that much.

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(Rating: 5) thanks for the advice :) It's true that it'll happen when he wants to in the long run. Oddly enough, the smoke itself doesn't bother me, like the smell, I just worry about his health and let's face it, cigarettes aren't getting any cheaper. I'll keep on it :)
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