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I am expecting a baby boy and everyone is driving me crazy. The first problem was with his name. I've always liked the name Matthew and it's one of few I feel I'll always like. I planned to call him Matt, but after I became pregnant and already decided on the name, my sister started dating a guy named Matthew. I asked people if they thought it'd be weird to have a son named Matt and a possible future brother in law named Matthew, and a couple people jumped on me saying that I should ask my sister and her boyfriend if I could use the name since they might get married and want it for their son one day. I've always felt that no one owns a name and names should be first come first serve and when I asked, my sister felt the same way. However, when I told people that, they told me to pick another name and get over it. When I did choose the only other name I feel I can live with, one of my friends accused me of stealing it from her. The second problem was with his due date. He was supposed to come on October 8th, which is my brother's birthday. People insisted that I induce labor before then, but after having had a small baby, I was nervous doing so. Now that he's late, everyone's worried he'll come on the 20th, my other brother's birthday or the 26th, the anniversary of my grandmother's death. They want me to induce, but I want him to come when he's ready. Is it the hormones, or are people overly irritating?
Wow. Hold the phone. Who's baby is this, yours or the families.
This is your baby. You and the baby's father are the only two people that have any say in what the babies name should be. If you want Matt or Matthew then that is the name you give him. The baby will come when he is ready. The doctor, your OB, will be the only one who should make the call as to whether you should be induced. We are talking about what is best for your child. I seriously doubt your doctor would induce you anyway unless it was in the babies best interest to do so, so forget about that idea.
My wife an I were having the same problem. When wee were having the first child to bear the family surname. If it was a boy, which it was, it meant the name would live on for another generation at least until he had children. If one of them were a boy then the name would again live on. We are a very, very small family.
My wife like you was getting very upset with all the sage advice and demands. Finally I told her what I am going to tell you. This is our baby to love and enjoy. If they don't like something we have chosen or anything we do it is their problem not ours. We will never please everyone so we will please ourselves and to hell with everyone else. This is what I am telling you. You will never please everyone so stop trying. Please yourself. Enjoy your pregnancy and the birth of your son when he is ready to be born. If someone in your family doesn't like something well that is their problem not yours.
Frankly though once that bundle of joy arrives all those things go out the window and everyone gathers around to enjoy the baby. So relax and stop worrying.
(Rating: 5) Thanks, I'll do as you say and worry only about what my husband and I want and not what everyone else does.