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I am the second born in my family and sometimes, I feel like everyone's more important than I am, especially my older brother. People call me by his name, ask about him more than the rest of us, and always remember stories that are actually about one of the rest of us as being about him. My parents say that they don't have a favorite child and they swear that my older brother's not the most special just because he's the oldest. My mom even wrote an essay for a class about what made us all equally special to her and I've always believed it, but lately people have been telling me that first borns are always the special ones and the ones that would be the hardest to lose. I researched it on the internet and a ton of people said that parents would rather have one of their younger kids die than their first born. I decided to try to find out, so Tuesday night, I disappeared and my parents couldn't find me until Thursday morning. My mom found me first and after she was done hugging me, she was angrier than I've ever seen her and yelled at me the whole way home. When we got home, my dad (the harder parent) was even more mad. They said they hadn't slept, eaten, or done anything else since I left and they even had to call the police for help. Neither of them have calmed down about it and when I asked them if that was as bad as if they couldn't find my oldest brother, it just mad them more mad that that was my reason for doing what I did and that I believed strangers over them. Could I really have scared them as bad as my oldest brother could? Does it sound like they have a favorite child?
I have heard this before. I don't believe parents actually favor one child over another. Loosing any child is hard on a parent as this is not the way life is suppose to be. A parent is never suppose to bury a child.
While I suppose there are parents that might favor one child over another I do not believe that favoring and loving are synonymous. A parent might favor one child athletic ability over the other children's abilities and still love each child equally.
To answer you question: Yes you did scare your parents as much as your brother could. This was a very horrible test of their love that you put them through. It was extremely selfish of you to do so. Something you need to apologize for. You have very loving parents. While it is possible they favor something your older brother does or is accomplished at. They love you both equally. This is what is important.
(Rating: 5) Thanks, I will apologize to my parents. I know now that thinking my parents would rather something happen to me was wrong. I won't listen to the people who told me that before, only my parents and other good parents who know what they're talking about like you.