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I am 17 years old and I love God with all of my heart. I also love my boyfriend with all of my heart.. In 2 weeks My boyfriend and I will have been dating for 2 whole years. I love him sooo much! And yes, we are intimate. We have been for most of our relationship. But the thing is, I feel REALLY guilty. Because I masterbate... more than a female should. I have this weird desire to watch massage videos. (inappropriate massages) such as a spycam massage and the masseuse is seducing them by rubbing them down there or massaging their boobs. idk why but it turns me on because i love that feeling of being rubbed down there. so then i masterbate while watching it. AND I FEEL GUILTY AS HELL because I have boyfriend!!! My boyfriend tells me that he never masterbates anymore because i basically do it for him. My bf definitely pleases me a lot.. but idk why i'd feel the desire to look up porn and masterbate..? I feel disgusting saying that because if you knew me you would never guess i do that. I'M A GIRL. like wtf. I just pray all the time that the desire to watch massage videos goes away. Because if i didn't watch massage videos, i wouldn't want to masterbate. And for some reason I'm scared that God will take my boyfriend away from me if i keep it up. like punish me or something and it scares me!!! I just want to show God how grateful I am to have my boyfriend! And masterbating is DEF not a way of showing thanks in ANY way. I'm so mad at myself... guys please help me :( I'm desperate. It's just that whenever I picture a massage video in my head or make up a scenario in head, there's no going back! No matter how hard I try, I will have to literally masterbate to get it out of my system... just help me. I wanna show apprectiation to God and my boyfriend. help guys asap
I don't want to mess with your beliefs but there is nothing in the bible that says masturbation is a sin. Most religions including the Christian Faiths do not condemn masturbation.
It is man not god but man that looks down on masturbation, just why does not make any sense when a recent study shows that 85% of us masturbate. That's right only 15 out of 100 don't masturbate or admitted to masturbating. When you consider that mutual masturbation is a large part of foreplay in most peoples lives it is hard to believe that no one doesn't masturbate at sometime.
The only time masturbation is wrong is if it becomes an all encompassing part of your life to the exclusion of everything else. Then you have a problem. Then you need to find away to stop masturbating either with a doctors help or through prayer and devotion.
Now everyone who masturbates does so in different ways and in the number of times. Most require and outside stimuli such as a porno movie. There is nothing wrong with this. Fantasy is part of sex. Masturbating two, three, or even four times a day is acceptable. We all have different sex drives.
For young unmarried people masturbation is a good alternative to having premarital sex. It relieves the sexual tension and stress. Stress of any type is not good. Relieving stress is a good thing.
Stop being scared, god is not going to take your boyfriend. If you need to masturbate do so and enjoy yourself without fear or worry you are doing nothing wrong.
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much for your time and help!