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Hi there, 24/f, he's the same age. I'm the dork who posted the question about hearing wedding bells in less than a year.
So it turns out that my wonderful, devoted guy may be going to state police boot camp in a month. He had originally intended to go next year, but they're trying to get him in sooner. I told him if they want him, he should go. I am completely supportive of this endeavor, and I think he'd be perfect for the job. The only problem is - and he just told me this morning - that he won't have access to a computer, and rarely a phone. He'll be able to come home some weekends, and I don't know about "snail mail," but we'll have very little contact. Does anyone know if they allow mail?
We live an hour away from one another to begin with, so we're used to a slight long-distance thing, but he works near me right now, so we've been seeing each other more and he stays with me frequently, even if it's just overnight. When he's working closer to home, we keep in touch via - you guessed it - technology. So obviously, things are going to change quite a bit. We'll have much less contact than we already do, and I hate to sound girly about it, but I miss him the second he walks out my door, even if I'm seeing him later the same day.
I have no doubt we'll still be together when all is said and done, but how am I supposed to handle barely being in contact with him at all for five months while he's close enough for me to drive to (and I'm not allowed to go see him)?
Thanks in advance for your help.
The answer to most of your questions on visitation, leave policy, phone calls and all of that will be told to him on his first day in the Academy. Snail mail will be allowed as will eventually phone calls home.
Since the five months include 3 of our closest held holidays I will guess that they will offer leave during at least two of them if not all three. The military allowed leaves for Christmas and New Years while in basic training I see no reason why the State Police would not although it is possible they may not as the job is a 24/7 365 day type job.
Twenty weeks is not all that long. Most State Police follow the same policy in their training Academies why I'm not sure. I believe it is so the recruits have only one thing to concentrate on. Be proud of your guy for as a State Police Officer he is in the elite of the Police Officers within your state. The best of the best.
For your part, you need to be supportive and grin and bear it. He is going to be doing an important job. One that there is little thanks for. One that allows him to see a part of life most of us don't see and none of us should have to see. As a fire fighter I have seen that side of life and it is not pretty. Please thank him for me for the service he will be giving his community. There are those of us out here that do support him. I am one of them.
(Rating: 5) Thank you. I always respect and look forward to your advice.