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I'm eighteen years old, and I'm basically a follower. If real life were a video game, I'd totally be a support character. I'm very good at being backup, being there for people and sacrificing my own wants or needs for theirs. I'm also very good at following orders and respecting seniority. I have been my entire life. I always think about other people first. I follow people the majority of the time. If my friends and I, say, go to the mall or something, I prefer following behind them. I don't know why, it's just how I am!
It's not to say I can't lead. I guess I'm sort of a lazy leader, in a way. If a situation arises where there are all followers amongst us, I'll take the lead if I have to. But if anyone else wants to lead I'll follow them.
A follower is always described negatively... Is it really all that bad to be a follower? I mean, without us, leaders would have no one to LEAD, right? Thanks for your time. :D (link)
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You're right the word follower generally invokes negative connotations. To me a follower is anyone who cannot think for themselves, voice opinion, lead or one who follows others in bullying people, ditching school, drugs, sex etc to be accepted as part of a clique.
To me that word doesn't apply to you. You like to hang back a bit and let others have their say and when the time is right lead. Nothing wrong with that but you MUST realize that these same people value your contributions and not be afraid to get in there and be as vocal as they are.
Contribute MORE than usual and see how that works. As long as you know how to let everyone have a say and express ideas there's nothing holding you back but an incorrect view held by you of your importance and where you fit. Fear is holding you back with these people from soaring and being you. Plain and simple. That's the issue.
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Thank you very much! Your answer was very smart and frank. I think you're right. I appreciate your answer, and the time you took to write it! :DD!
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