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Okay, so I've been single for a while... And lately, I cant help but feel lonely. I miss the feeling of having someone to emotionally and physically comfort me. Sometimes, I feel that everyone is out, living their life as much as they can, and trying not to regret what they do.. Basically, they try not to have second thoughts about things they want to do, whether or not they should.
There's a guy that I used to be very good friends with, texting-wise. We never really met in person, until today. He lives many many states away. Today, I met him for the first time, after I drove to see him, very last minute. My sister came with me, so it made me feel a little more comfortable.
He is surprisingly attractive.. Not VERY attractive, but seems decent. He's a year younger than me but he's very mature. Anyway, the guy has a girlfriend, as of maybe two days ago. She's not here with him. (He's visiting my state for business purposes).
When we used to talk all the time, we had some really intense, flirty conversations. He told me that when we meet, we would have sex...
We met, and of course that didn't happen.. but he wants me to meet him again.. He asked me what I thought of him and I described him as having an innocent-looking face.. no sexual innuendo intended. But then, he replied "come thru this week and I'll show you how innocent I am ;) "
he wants me to come back and visit him again.. Now, I'm worried. First of all, Im not the type of girl who would do a guy just for fun. I like the thought of it, it's sexy and all but... when it gets down to me actually being put in the situation, I feel all wrong on the inside... then the fact that he's involved, that's just wrong too. I wouldnt like it if my new boyfriend did that to me. I would like to go see him, but im afraid about what's going to happen.
The idea of having sex with him scares me... I'll feel guilty. I dont wanna mess up our friendship.. but its not like ill see him again so who cares... but yeah, still., im worried about everything.
what do you think I should do?

If you don't want to have sex with him, then don't! If you DO want to hang out with him again, do it in a scenario where you won't be alone, such as a double date on restaurant, or going to the movies with a few people. That way you can get to know him a bit better to work out your feelings and thoughts on him, while taking away all the pressure.

Goodluck:)xx

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(Rating: 5) thank you... i dont think id get to be in a place where im not alone with him though... no one here knows him, as he's visiting...idk, its complicated. but still, thank you
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