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My mother is very religious and tries to force me to be, too, but I'm REALLY not. But she keeps pushing me to be more like her or even my older sister. She says she loves me no matter what, but she still attempts to force me to be someone I'm not: a sweet little Christian-y angel. How can I deal with her without resorting to murder? (link)
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What a lovely topic headline for Mother's Day. It's a mother's role to encourage her children. She may see potential in you that you haven't discovered. She sees that your sister is flourishing and wants and knows she can get the same from you.
Aside from that she knows you are entirely different people and you could point out that you're very different and though she means well the comparison/contracts she is making hurts and you feel as though no matter what it isn't good enough. If she sees how this upsets you maybe she'll set the record straight that it's not meant to have caused you a lot of stress.
Religion is a difficult subject. Being truthful is the only way. Tell her that you respect her religious choice but that you feel uncomfortable with the idea of GOD and that Christianity may not be your thing. Ask her not to make it an issue with you that you just don't believe the same things.
If you do this in an adult civilized manner I'm sure even if she doesn't agree with your choices that she'll give you space on them and back off on the pressure on both issues. No need to resort to violence and or the more disgusting view of murder. She's your mom. Show her the respect you've been wanting and she'll reciprocate.
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Thanks for the awesome advice! I have attempted to talk to her, but that mostly consisted of yelling and rebellion. You really helped me out. I owe ya.
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