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Im 21 my bf is 22...Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months...we have sex maybe once every 2-3 weeks...the first couple weeks of our relationship we were having sex everyday then i wasnt into it as much as he was..now the tables have turned and i want him but hes never in the mood, a few times iv seen him looking at porn but didnt want to have sex....i dont know what to do, he said hes sick of trying but now im the one trying....is he not attracted to me anymore? I really dont like how weve created this married like relationship..its no longer fun...i love him soo much im just afraid he doesnt want me anymore (link)
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Why not go directly to him and tell him that you feel unwanted and are definitely interested in sex and the relationship as a whole. Ask him what's bothering him as before he was wanting to be intimate all the time.
It's unusual that now when you're initiating the very thing he wanted in the first place that he's seemingly uninterested. Maybe, he's being a baby in a sense and giving you the cold shoulder because his ego was hurt before. I don't know but the fact he's gone from always wanting it to can't be bothered is really odd.
Unless he's on new medication or has an illness that's being treated with such his sex drive should not have plummeted off a cliff here. It doesn't add up.
You have to talk to him about your feelings and figure out where this relationship is headed as perhaps it was all about the physical before, now it isn't and you're not connecting on all other levels. Something needs to be said so it doesn't get worse.
Also, once every 2-3 weeks is hardly asking either partner much or putting someone out either so it's really odd behavior. I hate to suggest it but I wonder if he's not being true to you. It's weird and entirely NOT your fault that he's in to pornography and suddenly not his partner. You seriously need to figure out what's up with this guy and soon.
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No medication...i did some research and found that since we have been dating he hasnt been going to the gym regularly luke he used to do so i think that could be why he is not in the mood, hes not cheating bcuz hes always on a regualr daily schedule so i know hes not cheating were always together(which could also be the problem) but i do catch him drunk txting girls and now trying to hide it from me since i brought up that it bothered me, i just rly hope we can work this out cuz hes sick of trying and thinks we possibly dont fit together anymore altho he claims he doesnt want anyone else...idk what to do...its a hard situation, cuz we live together and got a puppy, but if i have to give all of that up to be happy and feel wanted than maybe thats what ill have to do...im not one to take breaks but maybe it would be good i rly dont know
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