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Hi. I'm 14/f and my boyfriend an I have been talking about having sex. He really wants to and was respectful enough to just ask instead of trying to pull my pants off, unlike my ex's and I've told him that I don't want to and he knows how I feel about the whole thing so he hasn't asked that question exactly, but he has hinted a couple times and got the same answer and then yesterday he brought up the topic of masturbating and right away this came to my head;
If I don't have sex with him but still satisfy him somehow (by masturbating for him & letting him watch and masturbate if he wants to) then is that wrong? Of course I don't want to tease him by telling him that I have this idea and then not do it so my question is;
Is this wrong? I'm 14/f, virgin and I want to stay virgin until my wedding, by the way
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You will get a multitude of responses on this with some people thinking its wrong and others the opposite. It's really subjective.
The question should be do you think it's wrong? It all comes down to your perception of it and whether you feel it's right. That's something nobody can decide but you.
The truth is that this isn't hurting anyone and it's up to you. You have to be 100% comfortable with your body and sharing something so private with him. You also have to be 100% sure that you are doing this for yourself and not just for him to be satisfied when you don't want sex.
You and you alone are in the driver's seat and have to set up boundaries about touch, that there's no sex etc. and that you're remaining a virgin and never let it cross into uncomfortable territory. I guess what I'm saying is to really think hard about this and consider pros/cons before agreeing to this. If for any reason you feel weird about it than don't.
As you know masturbation in any form is safe and 100% normal. Adults do engage in this together and it's not uncommon. In a way your parents would HATE you doing this at all but would probably applaud you trying to handle hormones in a way that isn't intercourse. It's better to this than become pregnant or be in risky behavior. Know your own morals and if waiting til marriage for sex is important don't do anything to compromise that.
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Thank you so much! He'll be so happy and I'll try to calm him down so he doesn't cross the line lol but thank you a lot!!!
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