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Q: Ok I'm 17/f
Me and my bother are very close. We can talk about most anything with each other. We both have a
boyfriend(me) and girlfriend(him.) Let's just call his girl friend Anna. My bother is 22. My boy friend is 18. my bother's girl friend is 20. Now me and his cell phone don't look the same but they are thee same shape.
I got this new cell phone case. But what I did not know is that he had gotten a new cell phone case. The same cell phone case. Now you think that I'd show him my new one right? No. Being dumb me a forgot. We were talking about something else. We found out the heard way that we had the same cell phone case. The phone got mixed up. And we found out stuff that I still wish I had not. Now from text that he sent to his friends I put to gather this: He had got mad at Anna and went out.And he chat on her. More then one time!In all he chat about seven time or more.I know. and all I can look at him now is a cheater. But he also found out stuff about me. I was once in a teen gang. We did the weed and all that stuff. I rob a few house with some so called "friends". My boy is a ex-gang member. He help me stop with all that stuff.
Any way one girls thinks he is the father on her baby. (he only think because she had a boy friend at the time and my bother know it) I said if he did not tell Anna I would. He said he would tell Mom And Dad. Help

Your brother is an adult. Granted, some of his behavior isn't very adult, but he is 22 years old. It isn't your job to mediate his relationships. It's his mess and he needs to deal with it. All you will do by involving yourself is become part of the mess. If you want to make things right, apologise for snooping in his texts - and you WERE snooping, because it should have only taken one text for you to realize you had the wrong phone, anything you read after that was snooping. If it's any consolation, he obviously was snooping in yours as well and ought to apologise to you, but you can only control what you do. It's okay to let him know you're disappointed in him, but let him know you will stay out of his business. That's probably the best you can do to set things right under the circumstances.

Rating: 5

I guess you are right. It did not take one to know how cell phone I had. I don't have all of his friend numbers. I still don't know about not telling Anna. I know you are right thou. I feel like I'm standing by and letting something bad happen. Nothing you did. You were good. It's me.
Thanks

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