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19/m
I am gay, and I cannot find a good guy. I have had some decent boyfriends, but we always brake up because we end up being too different. I am not a party boy, I don't smoke (or do any kind of drug for that matter, legel or illegal), I dont drink. I just want a guy I can be myself with, and not have to worry about growing apart from. How can I meet a guy like that? My last boyfriend was so amazing and so sweet, but he wanted to party and drink and I told him that I wouldn't be able to date him if thats what he wanted to do, so we broke up. I just want to know how I can meet a nice, gay guy who is like me. And please, do not suggest any online dating websites (I tried online stuff before, and it was a disaster). Any ideas on how to meet a guy like that? (link)
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Hello! From what i just read, you want a guy who is like you! Who doesn't drink, and doesn't smoke...
but honestly, don't you want to find someone who is exactly the opposite of you? Isn't it about finding your other half, not your exact half? Shouldn't he be everything you're not? It's about finding someone you love, despite all the flaws, it's about compromise! It's not finding someone who does everything you do to make it easy. Relationships are never easy! And by trying to make it easy for yourself, you skip out on all the good stuff that real relationships bring! You might want to re-think that part!
Another thing, i don't understand why every time you asked where to find a boyfriend you had to put gay? Just because you're looking for a gay guy, doesn't mean it's going to be any different from finding any other guy, or girl. You already mentioned that you're gay...I think people can figure out that you're looking for a gay guy! :)
Then let me say that I am glad you're very open with your sexuality! I know you don't like online stuff, but maybe give it another chance, you might be surprised! Or go to the places where you've found your other boyfriends! Go back to the places you've been before. Maybe ask some friends to hook you up with someone! Anyways, don't stress yourself. You're only 19, you shouldn't be in any rush to find someone! Life's goal is not to be in a relationship! Go on and live a little before you drown yourself in all this boyfriend stuff!
Good luck!
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I did not agree with all of the advice, but there was some advice that was very good.
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