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Q: I broke up with Justin because well he is in highschool and im still in middleschool. He also lives like 45 mins from me so we only seen each other like once a month. People kept telling me that he was cheating on me but he always denyed it and i believed him the whole time we was dateing i had to worry about him cheating on me. but i love him. now im dateing Kyler but i dont like him im just dateing him because he has liked mefor two years and he goes to school wiht me so i see him everyday. i dont have to worry about him cheating on me eaither because he likes me to much to do anything like that and he got me a bracelet and a ring. i dont like him though and i wanna break up with him but i kno if i do i will hurt him and i dont wanna do that. i wanna go back to Justin to but if i do i will also have to worry about him cheating on me. ohh and when me and Justin was together we fought alott like we would cus each other out and everything and after we broke up we was fighting and he made a very bad comment about my family. i hate that he done that but i love him anyway. should I break up with Kyler for Justin or should I just stay with Kyler or should I break up with Kyler and just stay single..? I dont kno what to do, I hope you can help.
In my honest opinion, you'd almost be better off by yourself at this point. And you will always love Justin. That's just how it is. If you truly loved someone, you will never stop loving them. But obviously you did worry about him cheating on you, even if he denied it. And if yall were fighting all the time, then that's not a healthy relationship and it can damage you in the long run. As for Kyler, yes, he sounds great. But if you don't really like him, then you only do damage. You're leading him on, which will come out sooner or later. What you need to do is break it off with both of them and just focus on you for a little bit. Think about what you want in a guy, and don't settle for the major problems (like continuously fighting). Set your standards and look for someone to meet those standards. Although you just need to keep in mind that some of those standards will have to be bent every now and then. For example, I have the standard two years up, one year down, but the guy that I really like right now is four years older. But because that one's not a major problem for me, I can bend on it. When you set your standards, make sure you know which ones you are willing to bend on and how much you're willing to bend, and which ones you're not. Now, all of this is in my opinion. I am in no way telling you that you have to do any of this, but I really think that it would be healthy for you and any and all future relationships. Good luck and please let me know how this turns out!

I think I will break up with Kyler sometime soon. You advise really helped! And thanks for the ideal about seting standareds I is going too forsure.

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Hey everybody! I am a 17 (almost 18!! :) ) year old girl that is here because I hate it when people look for help and there's no one there to give it. I am here for anyone that needs help, even if it is just venting. My goal in life is to make a change in at least one person's life, and this is one way that I hope to do that. If you have any questions or advice or just need someone to talk to, just message me. I'm always here to listen and help.

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