Unless he cheated on you with your sister, broke up with you on your birthday or kicked your dog, there's no reason why you can't say hi to him and be civil. You dated, for goodness' sake. You were extremely close friends for a while. Now that you're broken up, you're going to each pretend like the other doesn't exist? That's kind of silly. He just wants to keep the friend aspect of the relationship without the romantic aspect. I've got the same dynamic with my first ex. He's a really sweet guy, but we just weren't cut out for each other in the long run. So now we're really good friends.

As for why he hasn't done anything about regretting breaking up with you, could it be because you're giving him the cold shoulder? I know that I'm not exactly moved to roses and candlelight dinners when someone won't give me the time of day or see my side of things reasonably. Be nice to him and maybe he will try something.

I find it hard to be civil to someone who broke my heart tbh. & I am nice to him, well was... I don't really speak to him anymore, I just don't get him. Thanks for your advice.

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