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last weekend was the first home varsity game, so all my friends drank and then went. most of my friends got pretty drunk, and my friend "e" was drunk too.
this girl "k" hates "e", so she thought she was faking being drunk. she asked me about it over facebook and i told her that at first i thought she was faking, and then by the end of the night, that she was actually drunk. "k" forwarded the conversation we had on facebook to some girl "a" and "e" found out.
"e" texts me today flipping out. and my other friend "b" texted me saying 'wow' she wasnt flipping out, i just think she was mad at the fact that she thinks i told "k" that i faked the whole thing. "e" got mad because now everyone is shitting on her and saying that more people hate her now. and probably because of me. i texted "k" telling her to stop spreading it around because i told "e" i would. we both have the same group of friends so im scared "e" is gonna tell everyone to hate me.
i dont think "e" is as mad as before, but she thinks i lied, and i didnt. ive apologized and even texted "k" for her. "b" texted me again saying w.e' but i dont know what to do or how to handle this situation. (link)
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You know, this is one of those lessons that we are doomed to repeat until we make a firm decision on one thing: Don't ever talk about anyone behind their back, even with the best intentions... because it will be found out every time and always end in trouble for you and everyone else involved.
I think everyone goes through this. I did. The secret to success in this is simple: When someone says: "Do you think she was faking being drunk?" You reply: "I have no idea."
Same for every similar situation in the future, and your life will improve, I promise.
May I suggest that you apologize again? Perhaps let her know that you didn't really realize what you were doing when you answered that question.
You may lose all the friends in this group. Odds are they will not trust you again because of this reputation you earned by being involved in this.
I would end things with "k" immediately. She forwarded that convo to get you in trouble. There is NO OTHER REASON she would have done this.
Even if you lose these people as friends, more will come along eventually. When you have a new friend or a dozen of them, just remember never to repeat this mistake and this will end up being worth it.
Some people NEVER learn this lesson. There are 40+ year olds who do the same thing and sit back wondering why nobody likes them.
You, on the other hand, are WAY ahead of the curve because you asked this question. That means that you want to learn and grow as a person.
Good luck with all this.
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