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This is quite a long story. please bear with me.
17/f
There's this boy. he and i have been pretty close friends for more than 5 years. When we were younger, we had a little crush on eacother, but we were young, and nothing ever came out of it. A few years after that, when we were about 14, we started talking and i was convinced we were going to end up together. That year, i went on vacation, and when i came back, he had a girlfriend. (ive always hated this girl, just throwing that in there). I was upset with him for a while, but we weren't actually dating or anything, so i did the mature thing and didnt make a big deal out of it. We stayed friends since then.
now here's the "good" part. About a year ago, he and i were talking, and he told me that he's always (and stil has) had feelings for me. (He's still with the same girl from earlier in the story). So when he told me this, i got very excited because i still liked him too. A few months after he told me this, i moved to a new school an hour away. We've been talking since i moved, which was 9 months ago.
A few months ago, probaly in like, june, he tells me he wants to leave his girlfriend of 2 years, because 1. Things between them havent been so great, and 2. he wants to be with me. So since then, we've been talking every night for hours. He still hasnt broken up with her because he doesn't want to hurt her (so he tells me). he always tells me how sorry he is that he can't man up and leave her for me, and i know it sounds like a bunch of crap, but i believe him. A few weeks ago, we met up to hang out. And we kissed. While he still has a girlfriend. I feel super guilty because he still has a girlfriend, but i strangely don't regret it at all. In fact, i think id do it again.he just left for college 5 hours away. His girlfriend is clueless that he and i are even talking.
Am i "the other woman"? Does that make me a bad person? I can't take this anymore, its way too much stress. But i REALLY want to be with him. help?? Thanks so much (link)
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Well , in a way watch out because what he did to his girlfriend he might do to you one day. I think if he does not break up with her soon , then i'm not sure if he has the guts to. If he really does not want to be with her , he would have or will soon dump her. You are the other woman in the sense the women no one knows about. It does not make you the bad person because you've liked this guy and you've known him for so long , but you should have not kissed him , imagine what his gf would do , would you be happy if someone did that to your bf? I am sure you would not , I think you should not do that again because it will hurt you , others and them ( bf and other girl involved) If you really want to be with him wait for him and show him you will wait for him or if you love him set him free and see if comes back. I think you should wait till they seperate to coninute it even though you said that you would do it again since his girlfriend did not know. My advice to you is yes you are the other woman , and no it does not make you a bad person you just decided to take a bad decision and you can always fix that. Do not stress over it , it will work out just fine , just be patient and keep talking and see where it goes.
Good luck girl : )
- You and him will rock the world
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