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Q: Hi! :) my bf and I are both 18 and extremely happy with one another. We are also both born again Christians. I know he loves me and he knows that I love him, but he refuses to say the actual words "I love you". His reason? He doesn't want to ever say those three powerful words to more than one woman his entire life. (relationship wise...) he said that the person he days it to is the woman he will want to spend his life with. We have been going out for 3 months. I understand his reasoning and all...but I feel that if he feels something, then why not say it? Am I wrong? And when we talk about it he always tells me all this stuff EXCEPT I love you. He knows that I don't want to say it first too. He has told me to go ahead tho and say it first. In response to that I tell him that I don't want to because he won't say it back. He then would tell me that he is sure about our relationship but it's just gonna take him longer to say it. That basically means that, yes, he wouldn't tell me that he loves me back. :( so how long did it take for ur bf (or gf) to say it to u? Please help... Thank you in advance.
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I do not doubt your feelings for each other in any way. But I kind of agree with your boyfriend to not say it just yet. You know three months really isn't a long time to be dating, not that I haven't felt very, very strongly about someone after three months but, maybe you just shouldn't push it? I think in my opinion, because you asked, you should just let it be. Really if it's meant to be, which I do not doubt at all, then it will come. Why rush it, if you guys are so sure, you know? And now I really don't want you to take this as being mean okay, because I know with computers you can't hear how I'm saying any of this but I swear it's not in any way negative or mean or any other word that means the same thing. I'm just trying to give you a different outlook on it from an outsiders perspective, I really do hope I didn't offend you or upset you in anyway, and either way, good luck and I hope you do get the "I love you" from him you’re looking for someday. =)
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haha. Thank you. I took it as not harsh at all. I appreciate the advice. I know it hasn't been long, but I also know how I do feel. I will listen tho and not push it. Thank you so much.
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Hey! =) I really love my life and the things and people in it. I love fashion, make-up, going out, dancing, teaching dance, and being with my friends and family. I feel very blessed for the things I have. It took me a while to get to this point though and I know that growing up, and even people my age, you need advice about certain things every now and then. I've always had people give me advice about things and I've been able to use their advice through my own experience and mistakes and come up with some of my own things. And now I'm the one always helping my friends out. I always have new ideas that I love to share. And well, I can't promise I'll always be able to help or give you the answer you're looking for but, I'll definitely do my best. =)
Also, whether you ask me a question in my inbox or I answer one alone I normally ALWAYS add in my experiences because for me, I like to know when people can relate and aren't just guessing, it's easier when someone has actually been through it. And I'm not going to do any favors by lying, so I am ALWAYS going to be honest. But keep in mind just becasue of my experience and my honesty does not mean I am always right and I understand that. Feedback is appreciated to know what I can work on with certain answers, not demanded.
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Gender: Female Member Since: June 22, 2008 Answers: 77 Last Update: July 18, 2009 Visitors: 6990
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