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Hey, im 16f. I have an older brother who is 17 and a younger sister that is 10. My parents split up a few years ago, and I live with my mother. The problem I have is that no one respects my space. We just moved a few weeks ago, just across our town, but my room is now located at the end of the hall right by the living room. Every morn my mom and brother wake me up anywhere from 5-6:30 because my brother is just being really loud for no reason, or I can hear them stomping in the hall. They dont mean to stomp, but the floor is loud and they walk quietly by my sisters room (which is beside mine) and then are loud beside my room. And if they dont wake me up, they wake my cat up which is in my room then it starts meowing which wakes me up. My brother has to go to work at 7:30am which is why they are up so early. My sister in the morn before school leaves her hair in the sink. I have asked her if she could just wash it out since she is old enough, but that it too hard of a task. It is a pet peeve of mine. Gobs of hair in the sink..eww. All my mom says about it is 'if it really bothers me I could just do it myelf' but thats not the point. Another thing is, if I buy something like a chocolate bar, with my own money, (I have a job and i am VERY self reliant when it comes to money) for a snack (I dont eat much junk food) and stick it in the freezer for later, i will come back and someone will have eaten it (my brother, of course). He is a jerk all of the time and he does not care about anything other than himself. So its like, whatever if I eat her chocolate bar, she can buy a new one, but again thats not the point. Another thing is a few days ago I bought some instant rice. I even put it in my room so no one would take it or eat it, and then I come home from school today and the whole box has been eaten, except for about 1/2 a cup. Im like 'hey, i bought that so I could make some for myself for an easy snack' because i like rice on the odd day. And my mom was like 'I can buy more' which is fine, but I still wish they would leave my stuff I bought alone, or ask permission if they find it in my room. Respect is the thing that this house lacks the most. What can I do to see that I get some more respect? Asking them nicely has not worked in the past. And if this doesnt let up soon, im planning on just going to live with my auntie. She turned ~83 this year, lives three blocks away, loves my company, and respects me. My mom wont care, and if I just leave, that will be one of the places she will look. My aunties is only half a block from the school as well. It was just a thought.. (link)
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Alot of people have this problem of not being respected by family members and the best thing to do is to speak up and say your getting older, you have a job and so your an individual that needs space. I'm 17 and I've been fighting with family for years to get respect, and now I have it. Ask them how THEY would like it if you took stuff that they got for themselves or if they asked you to do something and you said "Do it yourself". If things still don't work out, then go to your aunties and say you won't go back home unless you get respect for yourself and your stuff. Talk to her about it to see if she can reason with your family.
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Hey, thanks for your advice. Actually, today right before I read what you had to say, I was going to eat my yogurt I bought last night. I bought strawberry because thats what I like and my mom never gets it. And then when I went to get it from the fridge, my brother already was eating it. I was like 'i bought that. you can't just go and eat it.' But he said 'like it matters, get another one'. I told my mom what if I just ate my siblings stuff they would get angry at me. AND on top of that SHE would get angry at me as well and say things like 'i bought that just for her/him you can't go and take it'. All she said to me after I said what I did,was that she would give me money and I could buy some more strawberry yogurt. But that doesnt replace my money that I earned. They just dont get it. I had work after school today and then after Tonight, I was SO close to just leaving. In the morn I work at 8:30 so I should stay here for now so I can have an alarm clock. But tomorrow, I plan on leaving.
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