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Ok so My best friend has this boy friend that lives like way far away and like she claims that she loves him but I'm not too sure if that is true because I think she might have been cheating on him but i don't know and like he is suicidal and stuff and well he carved her name into his arm and like he came to me for help and he asked me if i would keep an eye on her for him because he is really scared that she is going to cheat on him and I agreed to do that for him and tell him if she was hanging around other guys and whatnot, but the only reason that I agreed to it was because my friend is a heart breaker and I have told her that but yeah, I have seen way too many guys get hurt by her and I just wanted to help him..."Does that make me a bad friend to her?" Ok now that me and my friends boy friend have been talking and she doesn't know that we are but we talk all the time and she would flip if she knew but he told me that he has feelings for me and I don't know who to respond to that because I have a boyfriend and he is my best friends boy friend and he lives so far away...and I just don't know what to do about it because I don't know if I really have feelings for him... Like he has all these issues and I just wanted to help him because he doesn't deserve to be hurt any more than he already has been...like his past is way tragic.... and yeah so I know more about him and his past and his problems then his own girlfriend does and I feel guilty because if she was ever to find out that I have been talking to him behind her back she would hate me and to know that her boy friend told me that he loves me that would just kill her.... I just feel like I got myself into this whole that I cant get myself out of and I don't know what to do about his feelings toward me and what to tell him.... please help me!! (link)
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WOW! bit of a situation but nevertheless im here to help!
lets begin with you continously keep asking whether your a good friend? and honestly only you can answer that question? have you told your friend that shes a heartbreaker? yes! have you taken action in helping this boy? yes! so in my opinion you are and dont doubt it!
also, wouldnt you rather want to be to yourself a better person? sometimes you cant be the good friend all the time you need to be a good person! whether you believe in god or a higher authority when we die, truth is he/she will be judging you on the basis of a person not a friend, daughther, sister, auntie...just as a person! so focus on that for a while maybe?
with this whole love triangle that you have by fate found yourself stuck in...it is not entirely your fault! you not all to blame..because if this boy had respect for his girlfriend than you to would not have to hide! and lastly, your friend will only hate you more if you contuine to lie and decieve her behind her back! let her know whats been happening..and yes it will be hard but you have spoken the truth and you will feel much better after! also, find out how you honestly feel abou him? could it be longterm? is it worth exploring? or do you know it will be just another fling? is it worth losing a friendship? however, if you honestly like him...then go for it becuase it seems that htis boy would be better treated in your hands than in the hands of a "heartbreaker"! hope i helped..im 16/fandi went through the same thing only i let the boy g becuase i fort friendship was more important..however, year later i started goin out with a new boy i really likd and 4 months in the relationship i found him and here in my bedroom! so some friendships are worth it..trust me 2 months later and i still havent spoken to niether of them about it..but i hope i helped! i know a lot to read! let me know if i did or even if i didnt! tc dont worry honey x
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Thank you so much I think you have helped me a lot and i have some really hard things to think about lol thank you =]
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