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Hey, I'm Melody! I've been giving advice on and off since 2003. I'm a 23 year old military wife, expecting a baby boy in August, and working on my Bachelor's degree. :)
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i am a cutter, i think. i recentley started getting a paper clip to my arm, and...cutting it i guess. for some reason i don't really feel the pain, only afterward when i move my arm around. i dont no how to hide it, this is so not me. i am always this happy go lucky girl. im popular and have tons of friends, so i just don't no what to do. i always wear spaggetti straps and stuff, but now i can't. i just don't no what to do, i don't no how to stop. i want to tell my friend, but how do i no she's not going to tell anyone? and i dont even no how to tell her. so, how do i tell my friend, and what do i do? please help me...
Everytime I see the rare cutting question on this website, I get a lump in my throat, and it breaks my heart a little bit. This is a serious thing, and you need to stop. When I was younger, I cut myself as well. It was something I did to relieve stress, and it just got worse over time. Eventually it started to ruin my life, and even though I don't cut anymore, the scars are there forever. I am reminded of my stupid choices every single day.
You don't want that to be you in a few years. It's a bad mistake, and I can't stress that enough. It ruined so many of my relationships with people, and honestly I am embarrassed. I hate getting my blood pressure taken, when I get tan my scars are ten times worse, and I can't even wear short sleeves without someone staring. I know what they are thinking, it's obvious. And it sucks.
Cutting is not fun. And my cutting all started where you are at now. I just wish I had someone to tell me what a dumb thing I was doing. Please don't do it. Not only will you break your family and friends' hearts, but it will change your life forever, and not for the better. You have to talk to someone. A school councelor, or a friend. Or better yet, a parent. You'll feel so much better knowing you are not alone. Because you are NEVER alone if you have enough courage to ask for help. Someone out there will give it to you. Here are some tips to help with cutting, some may work. Some, maybe not.
Distract yourself. Color, draw, write, get online, do homework, read. Just do something.
If you like the feeling you get when you cut, wear a rubber band around your wrist and flick it when you get the urge.
If you like the visualness of cutting, take a red marker or pen, and make marks on your arm.
The best advice I can give you is to take the 100 day challenge. You get a calender, and tell yourself you aren't going to cut for 100 days. Once you reach your 100 day mark, you reward yourself with something. Or if you would like, just give yourself a pat on the back for fighting it. Throughout the 100 days, each time you get an urge, you write in a notebook, and talk about it. Say something like "It's day 19, and I want to cut because..." And then talk about it. If you slip up, don't beat yourself up over it. Just start the challenge over again. Continue doing it, until you just don't want to do it anymore.
If you would like some cutting links, inbox me and I'll send you some. Or google "cutting help links" or something along those lines.
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(Rating: 5) you are my true hero. i really don't no how o thank you enough. i definatley took your story to heart, and will never forget it. i am trying the things you have said, and it somehow seems to be hgelping. thank you so much, you don't no how much i appreciated what you said.