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Q: (kind of long)i went out with a good friend of mine for about two months and he broke up with me because he said he felt that our relationship wasnt really going anywhere and it was kinda dead.in a way i kinda agree.its just that while i was with him he got on my nerves by the way he acted sometimes but we where really physical alot.like we were more intament then mental.i never kissed him or had sex with him but we would like touch each other like under the school tables.i know its retarted but it was fun.he was also like ubsest with my butt!lol!but i kinda liked it.well anyway we stayed friends but i keep getting these physical feelings about him.like i keep wanting to almost be friends with benifits because i felt so like sexually connected with him and i miss that.then again i feel like i would be a complete slut if i did that and im not that kinda girl.we still kind of flirt with each other and he like smacked me really hard on my butt and he evn liked grabed it when we were slightly play fighting.i wished i could have said something but i couldnt because i know inside that i liked it!im just really confused right now.he told me that hes still physically attracted to me but not mentally because i argued with him alot beacuse he got on my nerves sometimes.he said that when i wasnt arguing i hardley talked.i dont think that but he also said that we touched each other more then we talked.lol.hes a really good friend and really funny but i still am confused on my feelings anout him and its driving me crazy!!!!!can someone help me please!!!

well, i had kinda the same thing. i went out with like my best guy friend for about a month and a half and im not really sure what happened either, but he just got on my nerves so freaking much so it didnt work out. i dont like him any more, but im stil pretty attracted to him, and sometimes get pretty strong physical feelings for him once in awhile (just in time for us to arugue again. lol) we are stil like really good friends too and hang out all the time but we very subtly fight quite a bit...

so anyway, i think that you should decide if you like him at ALL mentally. if not then, no, absolutely not friends with benefits. im sorry, i just think that that's not the right move. chances are if you agreed to something like that, you, being the girl, will become VERY emotionally attached to being with him and when it all ends again, you will regret it. you need to find someone that you like both physically and mentally. also, this all depends on how old you are. if you are still in high school, then that is exactly what i think about the matter. However, if you happen to be already graduated from high school and feel mature enough to handle it then i suppose it is really up to the both of you but i still would not do it in my opinion...hope that i helped you!