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Ok so there's this guy *John* who I've known for 3 years now. The first year, we really liked each other and almost went out, but didn't. Then it kind of fizzled out, mainly because he got "popular" I guess and didn't talk to me or my friends very much. He also got a girlfriend, who he went out with for a year, but they've been broken up for about a year now. I'm not sure about the details, but she dumped him and it was REALLY hard on him. We just started talking again recently. He knows I still like him (I told him). Here's the problem:
He was at boyscout camp 2 weeks ago and we texted almost NONSTOP. He completely flirted with me the entire time. He said he missed me like every 5 minutes and that he wanted to be with me. He also invited me to go to an amusement park with his friend. Then his friend (who thinks I'm hot) started texting and calling me (*John* didn't know about the calls). His friend was completely hitting on me. He was starting to creep me out, and I stopped answering his phone calls. Now *John* had stopped flirting with me and became very stand-off-ish. When I told him I didn't like his friend and he was scaring me, he sort of became his self again, but not as much as before. As it turned out, *John* told me we shouldn't go to the amusement park, because it was raining (and maybe other reasons? i'm not sure :/).
And since then, he only texts me every now and then. It's never that long or QUITE as flirty, but kinda. And it almost ALWAYS ends by him randomly not texting anymore. And every time I initiate it, he almost NEVER texts me back.
My question is, WHAT IS UP?! What happened to 2 weeks ago? How did it go from almost going out to him being so weird? I know I didn't do anything to make him like me less. I haven't even seen him since school let out. I've graduated and he still has a year to go, if that helps. Why is he sending me mixed signals? I'm so confused. I also have a feeling that his friend might have messed things up between us. His friend already lied to me once with something. And in one of our phone convos, he told me things about *John* that made *John* sound kinda like a jerk. What if he did the same thing to *John* and told him bad things about me? I DON'T EVEN KNOW THIS PERSON! What should I do? Because I REALLY REALLY like this kid, I always have. What's going on here? Why is he doing this? Is he playing me? He doesn't seem like the type to do that, but I don't know. Maybe he just needs to grow up? I'm tired of being really happy when he actually DOES text me, and then crying when he randomly stops or doesn't answer my text. I'm sick of being thrown around like this. I keep telling myself not to answer his texts, but once he does, I can't help myself. I like him so much. Ugh, please help. (link)
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Sounds like he's just as confused as you. Ignore him for a bit, he'll probably start paying attention to you again once he realizes you're not paying attention to him.
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