Member Since:December 1, 2010
Last Update:December 19, 2013
I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
advice(Rating: 3) Rating changed to a 3 by L2 mod That's not what I asked. At all. We have the type of relationship where I can do things like this and he will understand. All I asked is about information about cigarette smoking.. not my relationship with my boyfriend.
(Rating: 5) Thank you :) this really was helpful
(Rating: 5) Thank you :) I'll try my hardest.
(Rating: 4) thanks :)
(Rating: 5) that is really good advice thank you!
(Rating: 5) Thanks!!!!!!!!
(Rating: 2) Interesting way of thought sorry that I rated you low it's just that you didn't really comprehend the information the way I wanted you to.
(Rating: 5) thank you much
(Rating: 5) Thank you for the good ideas! :)
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much!
(Rating: 5) Awesome! Thank you for the information and congratulations on the weight loss! I think a shake will be a perfect breakfast then, followed by a gym session and later a healthy meal :)
(Rating: 2) I don't go to school!!!!!
(Rating: 4) HMMM.. I can understand. but i can't trust her. i love her but i feel very bad that she hide it from me.
(Rating: 5) Thanks! Honesty is awesome ;)
(Rating: 4) thanks for ur valuable advice
(Rating: 5) Oh i love how blunt u r... u deserve a 10 thank u so much needed to hear... ur amazing!!!!!!
(Rating: 5) Thank you very much. As it turns out, in CA until they are 18 you can't be more than 3 years older or you go to jail. We can wait. :) Thank you!
(Rating: 5) You're so right! Thank you so much!
(Rating: 5) Thanks. I didn't mention it, but he is actively seeking a job. He's trying, I just think that even with him having a job, I would feel the same way. But a break is a good idea, thanks again.
(Rating: 5) Do you know of any websites that I can check out ?
(Rating: 5) Zanes it's like you read my mind. We actually had a discussion and I mentioned to him,among other issues,the fact that this ain't a gamble.We know how long it takes..9months.Then we know that after that,we have about 18 solid years of parenting.If I don't feel up for it now,when i'm not making that much money and I don't feel like I have his support or even my parent's full support,does it make me a bad person to want to have a kid at the right time? No.
(Rating: 5) thanks bunches :)
(Rating: 5) k
(Rating: 5) thank you :)
(Rating: 5) Thanks :) that helped a lot
(Rating: 5) Thank you much :) I will check them out!
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much! I really love the last thing you said. I agree. If I mean something to him a week and a half won't change anything! Thanks so much again!!
(Rating: 1) Wow
(Rating: 5) thanks so much love your advice it really made me see a new perpective. i like him but i want more. i'm looking for a more serious relstionship he claims he's ready but actions speak louder than words. so time for me to go back to the drawing board. thanks again.
(Rating: 5) Thanks for the honesty
(Rating: 5) ok, thanks!
(Rating: 5) Hi – what I really wanted to hear was “You are being paranoid, crazy, and jealous” which would have helped me to trust her more. After we had this talk, she does tell me if the two guys have text/messaged her. And she doesn’t really reply. But I’m still on edge, constantly asking who just text her. It’s stupid, because I really want to get over this. And bless her, she really is making an effort. She’s can’t do much else, except for not talk to them at all. Which I think would be unreasonable (however much I want that to happen). In regards to us not being public. It’s complicated. We currently live together with other housemates, and when we first got together, she was already in the process of breaking a relationship off (long distance). We didn’t want to make everyone else that we live with feel awkward, even though I’m pretty sure they now know. She’s also worried about what people will think as it’s not been a great deal of time since she broke up with her ex. And finally now, she say’s she doesn’t want to go public because she feels her life isn’t in order. She doesn’t have a permanent job, and may have to move back home. We have to be out of the place we are living now, in a couple weeks and we are searching for somewhere short-term to live. I can slightly understand this, to be honest. Maybe I’m just being delusional though – what do you think? Thanks for the advice though! :)
(Rating: 5) .. thanks so much!!
(Rating: 2) It appears that you may be the one SO not getting the picture. When did I ever say that he is unhappy in his marriage? Never. When did I say that I had a chance with him? Never. When did I say that I intended to pursue a relationship with him? Never. So for you to have any opinion on my maturity level and ability to do my job is completely out of line. Edit: Really? Become none of the other advice I got was under the impression you were. Read the actual question before giving your judgmental feedback. My question was how to get over the feelings, not to act on them. After browsing your reviews, it seems that you get off on trying too hard to be the giver of harsh truth. Get off your high horse. You're not as mighty as you may believe. EDIT: Typical 28-year-old low life. Go figure.
(Rating: 5) Thank you. I will take that into consideration.
(Rating: 3) Thank you. :)
(Rating: 5) Thanks :)
(Rating: 5) Keep up the as advice giving! Like I said it's definitely more appreciated than you think :-) . Thanks for all the advice!!
(Rating: 5) I can not file for divorce until my children are residents of the new state which takes 6 months
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much I'm moving out of his place into my own
(Rating: 4) I know its funny but Im thinking of any little possibilities. Im worried.
(Rating: 5) You're completely right. I guess I just needed to hear that. Thank you.
(Rating: 4) thanks :)
(Rating: 3) I agree with the general principles and warnings Zane gave. There were two major things that were misunderstood, which will help me clarify my thoughts when communicating with my husband, but to be clear, I'm not the one who wants the 3rd party in real life, I just told him I was lonely, AND I don't want him to feel like he can't tell me things, I just want him to respect that I don't want to do them.
(Rating: 5) Thanks!
(Rating: 4) Thank you
(Rating: 5) thanks ! I decided to go! :)
(Rating: 5) Thanks alot!:)
(Rating: 5) Lol awkward moment when i have no idea what ur talking about with the first part:p
(Rating: 1) I feel like you just repeated everything I said, and judged me. Also, I didn't actually look, or stare, I just noticed as they approached the counter because I'm supposed to make eye contact with customers. I said I couldn't get her out of my head for a little while, not that I couldn't take my eyes off her. I'm more respectful and dignified than you have assumed. EDIT - What I asked for was not judgement, but an answer to my question. You didn't answer my question, and now you are only trying to insult me. I'd tell you to get off your horse, but I realized it's only a three-legged mule. But really, you should deal with your superiority complex.
(Rating: 5) I understand, thankyou. and the thing is I didn't write it correctly he is not in a relationship right now, I meant that as in the past
(Rating: 5) I get the feeling that you may be right and you may be right.. I'm unsure though which is why I asked the question.. Anyhow, i know we have some things to work on.
(Rating: 5) Wow thank you so much. I honestly did not expect to get any sort of response. I agree with you, that it's bad for her to be so dependent on me and that being in a relationship is not good for her in the long run. But the fact that I do care for her greatly, and always will (whether romantic or non-romantic) is keeping me from doing anything that may result in her sadness or harm. I know that her previous cutting and the more recent incident of cutting are not just acts for attention, though, as she told me right after and regretted it and promised she wouldn't do it again. Thank you for this insight though. I never really thought about the fact that it isn't my responsibility. I will give it a little bit of time.
(Rating: 2) i know that she has a boyfriend,and i didnt go trough like it.And even if i try to become her friend everyone will understand the situation.İ,ll leave it to next year,when everyone forget things from lastyear and talk about ehat did they did.Like i said for now i cant do anything about this situation.And i learned it today that not much people knows it.Normally i wont think or get sensitive for that but the thing that matters me.Why this is the solution for it? she could say it to me.And you said im not respecting to her relationship,maybe i didnt realize it but in school i dont talk much,not because im shy,i just dont think i need to,i like to talk but only with my friends.They know it,i just think like if i talk with them much they think i see them as my friends and everything would be easier.But i couldnt because of the damn school trips,if i could do that no one would think like that,even she wont understand it.
(Rating: 4) Thank you, your advice did make me feel better but I didn't get any tips on what to say to him to make the breakup less painful, and Im really more worried about hurting him than hurting myself because I have known for a while its time to move on
(Rating: 3) rating changed by L2 mod. If you rate a 1 you better file an abuse report. The advise you were given may not have been what you wanted to hear...but it isn't abusive.
(Rating: 5) Yeah explaining didn't do anything. He keeps telling me to tell him the truth. I have a feeling he did something.
(Rating: 5) Thanks for the advice! The reason I waited so long, was because I had training yesterday with my colleagues. I was so close to calling my manager and telling him that I was unavailable to come in today because I was sick. But I went, and I was asked to introduce myself first (isn’t it always the way?!) and just before, my heart was pounding. When I got going though, I was fine. I did it all completely without fail. I was relaxed, cool, composed – thanks to your advice. So thanks again!
(Rating: 2) I'd like to take a minute and explain why I rated as I did. I was not talking about two different men in this post; I was talking about one man. Because you thought that I was talking about two people, I am lead to believe that you skimmed my post and jumped to conclusions. Maybe this isn't the case; maybe I was unclear in some way. I understand that my post was very lengthy and perhaps difficult to get through. However, when I ask for advice, I prefer to give as much information as possible because I believe that, without the proper context, it is hard for people to form a complete perspective of the situation. Furthermore, I'd like to clarify a few things. We have both talked to our doctors about our depression and received counseling in the past. (That's why we are both aware that some of our parents' behavior, however well intended, qualifies as a form of emotional abuse.) I also feel that it was assumed that neither of us pay attention to our emotional well-being and this lead to the conclusion that either one or both of us are emotionally unstable people.
(Rating: 5) Thank you. Yeah he is always been this way not trusting me. definitely time to pull away.
(Rating: 5) youre right
(Rating: 5) Thank you.
(Rating: 5) totally agreed thank you!
(Rating: 3) Thanks for trying to help but that wasn't the answer I was looking for. I said I have no transportation or babysitter so there's no way I can try for those jobs right now please pay attention to the advice us people are looking for on here before you reply ok? But thanks again.
(Rating: 5) Thank you!
(Rating: 2) I was hoping for something that doesn't taste like mayo. Miracle whip tastes just a bit sweeter but it's almost the same.
(Rating: 5) Yes, you're right.
(Rating: 4) yeah but im not acting it
(Rating: 3) I haven't taken any actions at all yet to be considered selfish actually... I am wonderfully happy toward him and especially his child. I jumped into the relationship knowing what I was getting into. I did not know that I would be dealing with him seeing the Mother more than he sees his own two feet, and I am not quite sure if I am comfortable with him texting his ex who he claims to hate more than anything else almost every day. Thanks for your interesting opinion, but you did not really answer my question.
(Rating: 5) ty :)
(Rating: 3) Rating changed by L2 mod. Never rate someone a 1 unless you file an abuse report. This advice was in no way abusive. i wanted ways i can get it
(Rating: 5) Thanks I like the metallic necklace idea
(Rating: 5) Thanks.. I know I'm trying. It's just so hard to truly know if I should leave.
(Rating: 5) Thanks although it was a bit harsh you're right.. I broke up with my bf until I'm ready to be ok with my ex being with someone else. This helped so i appreciate it.
(Rating: 3) I haven't let it interfere with him in any way, nor have I mentioned to him that his lifestyle choice is wrong. And I've chosen to try and grin and bear it. Aside from his homosexuality he is a nice man. He goes out of his way to take me home and he works in a nursing home... Helps care for the elderly. I'm not going to say anything to him about it, I still feel uncomfortable about it but oh well.
(Rating: 3) Rating changed by L2 mod
(Rating: 5) Thank you so much. That really sums up how i feel about everything. I'm glad someone understands my viewpoint on this situation!
(Rating: 1) in my country its legel at this age. didnt answer my question to should i ask my mother wasnt helpful at all
(Rating: 3) I really do not think that you understand what I am trying to do with the pink teddy bear... he is meant to be a gag gift (something that I want him to be able to laugh at). I plan on getting him something else, I just know that it has to make up for the teddy bear.
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much!:)
(Rating: 5) thanks i took your advice and ended it with him (: im stress free.
(Rating: 4) Thank you.
(Rating: 3) ty :)
(Rating: 3) yeah he just told me he wasnt going to go, cause he wouldnt want to make me uncomfortable in anyway.... but thanks anyways
(Rating: 5) Good to know, Thanks :)
(Rating: 1) The reason why I rated you so low wasn't because I'm upset at you for not agreeing with me (well.. maybe a little). It's because I'm pretty sure I stated at least three times that I DON'T plan on doing anything, or telling him. In fact, I remember stating the fact that I definitely don't want anything to happen that would get him in trouble. You really gave me an attitude, dude. And I mentioned how I knew it was wrong like twice and you still lectured me about it. I definitely appreciate your (very brutal) honesty, make no mistake about that. But I seriously think you could have been just a TAD bit nicer.. just saying. Like I said though, I really appreciate it. Thanks man! :)
(Rating: 5) He invited me. And it happened already. She was a little regretful so you are right about that but otherwise it was GREAT!!! Thank you for your advice.
(Rating: 4) Thanks :)
(Rating: 5) thanks so much! :)
(Rating: 5) Thanks :)
(Rating: 5) thank you for being honest! i was really mad at my mom and i thought if we gt engaged then i could live with him instead of my stupid mom! i know it was dumb but i was ready to run away so you really helped me alot! THANK YOU!
(Rating: 4) Yeah thats what my mom said...now his hints about the gift are totally throwing me off I don't even know if its a ring now :( thank you for your advice!
(Rating: 4) Thx & ik bout the bluishing thing too but last year every1 said he liked me 2 so im not sure.. but im not wanting to date him lol but thx :D
(Rating: 4) ya i found that out today -_- thanks for the info
(Rating: 1) i know the guy we have talked before both in person and on facebook i wouldnt message a stranger
(Rating: 5) The thing is, I made the conversation quick, not him. So I think he got the impression that it was over.
(Rating: 5) Thank you, kinda gross but thanx :p
(Rating: 5) Thank you very much for answering I know it was very long we've tried on numerous occasions to set ground rules. My parents have talked to him soo many times and he promises to look for work but never does. They split their time between his house and ours now. They are mostly at his but they think that's ok then to come back to ours and stay a few days in a row and then leave again. Every time they try to set rules my sister feels Ganged up on and they go off to his house for a couple of weeks. Then she comes back and says he swears he's gonna do more but never does. My parents would never kick my sister out. I'm lucky I'm going to college in september so won't be around much anymore but still it should t be that way. Il try getting them to do it again. I think they're just fed up of all the arguments it causes. Thanks again.
(Rating: 5) Aww thank you so much! Really appreciate these comments, please show you're friends! And get them to comment on the video!!!
(Rating: 4) this totally makes sense.this morning my "friend" told me he wanted to apologize and that he wants me to text him. should i?